my husband already has 2 kids by is ex and we've been married for 31/2 years and I want a baby and he doesn't

Question

I jsut want to know everyone's opion about that .

Answer 1

At this point I would suggest a marriage counselor. Having an outside person who will be objective would be to the benefit of both of you. No one is here to take sides. You need an objective person--no friends or family, someone to listen to both sides to see if this issue can be resolved.

Answer 2

Would hope you touched base on this BEFORE the marriage. I have a nephew 40 and he's serious with a 33 year old woman. He has a 14 year old daughter(he raised alone for the last 8 years). She has never been married and has no children. He doesn't want anymore kids...The girlfriend does. It's been a struggle between them and as things stand now, I don't see a marriage happening...Your ages might be a factor. If he is quite a bit older than you, raising another child might not look real inviting.

Answer 3

Well like my mom always told me never date a man who has been married before cause you take his ex and his kids on besides himself!He has strings attatched .Thats why i think men and women who have never been married or dont have kids should marry peole the same cause he has 2 kids and he doesnt want more you cant blame him you should of thought of that before you married him and asked him.He should a little more understanding since you dont have any kids yourself but think thats one kid for you and 3 for him.But if you really want kids and he doesnt maybe you need to divorce him and find one who does or stay and put up with what he wants its your life and you have the rights to be happy .And if i was you i wouldnt surprese my feelings for no man.I love my kids and im glad i have 3 and i wouldnt know what i would do with out them .I believe everyone should have a child they bring such happiness.Just tell him how you feel and thats all you can do just decide if he is worth that.Id tell him that if im good enough to accept your 2 kids by another women then you need to give me one 2 i wish ya the best good luck!

Answer 4

Did you both agree before marriage that you will be having kids, and he is now backing out of it? Or has he always been clear on this issue, and you married him anyway? You can't make anyone have children, it's just not fair to pressure someone into such big step against their will. If you want children, and don't want to compromise on this, you should consider looking for a person with the same goals. If before marriage you were in agreement about having kids and now he has "changed his mind" - you might be able to get an annulment.

Answer 5

You should talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. Was this something the two of you discussed and agreed on before you were married? If he knows it is that important to you, he may be willing to have another baby. Otherwise you are either going to have to accept not having a baby, or having one in a different relationship. It's a tough issue. Best of luck however it turns out.

Answer 6

This was a subject that should have been discussed before marriage. As far as he's concern, he's through with the baby factory, because he has to pay child support for the ones he has.

Answer 7

These things should be discussed in the beginning. You now have to decide if having kids is more important than your husband. That's what has to be done.

Answer 8

Didn't this come up before you got married? If he doesn't want anymore kids and won't budge it will be up to you to decide if you want kids enough to end the marriage and find someone else who does.

Answer 9

You should generally have that conversation before getting hitched. You can't force him into being a father.

Answer 10

You really need to divorce this guy and find a guy who wants kids also.