my friend at work is having a gay blessing in a few weeks/ive been out drinking with her and her gf loads of times.shes invited me to her blessing but i havent booked the day off from work as i dont want to go
2006-08-23 08:38:24 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yes i misplaced my bf silly me.hes been lost for over 10 years
2006-08-23 09:10:50 · update #1
You start your question by saying my FRIEND at work, maybe you should reevaluate that, because if it was you who was asking would you not want her come? Remember she's asking you to come to her blessing not for a shag.
2006-08-23 21:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by megan a 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let me say this, darling. If she's good enough for you to go and and drink with, then why not support her on this wonderful occasion? If you feel uncomfortable, sit down and chat with her(no drinks!)and tell her how you feel. If you don't go and don't give a reason, that'll make you look bad. Is she your true blue buddy or just an acquaintance? Whatever the case may be, tell this young lady the truth.
2006-08-23 10:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why is that? Is it because you don't feel you are close enough to go to the ceremony or because you don't feel comfortable around gays? If it is the latter, what particular thing is it you feel uncomfortable about or you think might happen?
Talk your feelings through with a trusted friend and you might get to the bottom of it.
No one would want you to be at their ceremony if you felt uncomfortable about it. What about inviting them out for a meal instead?
2006-08-23 08:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by tagette 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have been out with her and her gf's and had a good time, then why do you not want to go? You just say you don't want to go.there's got to be a reason. Are you afraid to be around more than a couple of lesbians at a time? If so just be honest with her and let her know, it sounds as though you haven't even told her yet.
2006-08-23 09:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Finally home 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be honest with yourself and ask yourself why you don't want to go? Do you disapprove of the gay thing, or do you fancy this woman or have a past with her? I also think as shes your friend she would be hurt if you didn't go whatever the reason.
2006-08-24 02:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend have it in her mind that you are a REALLY good friend and think you would be there, and then be suprised if you weren't? Is that why you're asking the question?
I wouldn't consider it mean. If she's a good friend she should understand if you feel uncomfotable and don't go, and if she doesn't, sit her down and explain it to her.
2006-08-23 08:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by dnnzak 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is a little mean, only if it hurts your friends feelings though. If your friends dont care then it doesnt matter. If they will get their feelings hurt then you are being mean. And you know which will be the more probable for them.
2006-08-23 08:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Metacoma 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah, if shes good enough to go for a drink with and she was gracious enough to ask u to attend her blessing, which obviously means a lot to her, then u should go, or be honest and tell her why u dont wanna attend
2006-08-23 08:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how close the friend is. If she's very close, you are being mean.
If she's just an aquaintence, send perhaps a gift, or a card, (and an excuse) and you aren't being mean if you don't go.
2006-08-23 08:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by BearBert 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best policy, though if she were a really good friend you would want to go. I would say I couldn't get the day off work as I'd already booked my 2 weeks in the Maldives for later in the year.
Also, Duh! you are a hasbian, they are all mean ;-)
2006-08-23 08:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by n2mustaches 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋