Why are married women so distressed by their husband's porn use?

Question

I mean, why can't you just accept it and learn to be happy? Is it really necessary to try to change your spouse?

Answer 1

I think most women do "accept" it but no woman likes it. I think someone else asked this question. Women know it's normal and that all men do it, but every woman wants to feel like she's all you need. It hurts when we realize we're not enough. Most women handle it though. Can't speak for all those psycho-maniacs out there.

Answer 2

I used to try to not let it bother me because I thought we were only watching it together until I found some hidden on our computer. It's the idea that he is fantasizing about other women. I start wondering if I'm not attractive enough! It also leads to other things, once people lose their kick from porn they usually go looking elsewhere. If you get married to someone you should think that they are the most beautiful person in the world and wouldnt compare to anyone (even pornstars.) Otherwise, don't get married. Love should be stronger than that.

Answer 3

Well, heer is the thing. I don't think ti's right becasue if you are married and does watch a lot of porn, that can be a disrespect thing. Becasue women or men will think about the fact whether if they are good enough for you or not. Because if they are satisfying you, than why must you watch porn anyhow when you have a man or woman in the house to give you what you are watching on tv. Personaly, I rather get the real thing and do the thing than watching somebody else doing it.

Answer 4

I guess they get distressed because the men never apply what they learn in the porn movies later with their wives. That is so unfair. If married men who watch porn would just reenact some of the things in the movies maybe their wives would not distress so much.

Answer 5

Why do YOU care how a woman feels about her husband's porn use?
Why can't her husband just accept how she feels and learn to be happy without it?
Is it really necessary to try to change or ignore how your actions make your wife feel?

Answer 6

Simple. They're JEALOUS. And you can't control jealousy. Women are not supposed to accept that they're husband are porn maniacs, instead, men are the one who are supposed to change. Jealousy is something that a person could never overcome. Although, we can maintain our behavior, we can't maintain our emotions. Sometimes we couldn't even control our behavior if our emotions are too extreme to handle. Just like jealousy. You can't blame a wife if she doesn't want a husband to visit porn. We have to accept the fact that people are very jealous with each other.

Answer 7

I personally would rather have my husband look at porn than go out and cheat or spend lots of time in a strip club. Heck - maybe I'll even watch with him.

I'm not married if that makes a difference.

Answer 8

You mean "some" women? Not all women are bothered by porn. I don't mind my husband watching it or looking at it. As long as it's not consuming his entire time, I don't care. Besides, we have a healthy sex life and porn has nothing to do with it.

Answer 9

My husband watches porn and I use to get mad but I got over it. I rather my husband watch porn then be out in the streets cheating. Sumtimes I sit with him to watch too. Hey it spices up ur relationship alittle. Its amazing wat u see in these porn movies. Its natural for a man to like watching porn if not then a woman would have to worry. Some women now and days need to get with the program with their spouse. We're in the 2000's.

Answer 10

LOL... I think this quesiton is funny because I'm more the "kink" than my husband is. I'm always checking out sites and watching movies; but so does he, so we're always trying something new. We have a great open relationship and porn just makes it even better.