today my boyfriend compared me to his friend's girlfriend. then he went on to compare our relationship to theirs. how does one react to that?
2006-08-23 08:37:18 · 23 answers · asked by superstar ;)' 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hit him as hard as you can.
2006-08-23 08:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by jolene_mullikin 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Compares the relationship how? If he's suggesting something drastic, such as personality or looks are something then I'd be angry. If he says, "Why can't u be more like her?" or something similar to that, then that's plain disrespectful. Tell him that u don't wish to be compared to anyone else and that if he doesn't like the person u are now, then he can just leave. Sounds harsh, but that's the way my ex was. I got sick of it. He should love u for u and no one else.
2006-08-23 08:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you think that your relationship is yours and should not be compared to others because the way two people interact is unique and can never be the same as anyone else.
Keep your chin up he probably doesnt realise that this was an insensitive thing to say and iff you let im know that you were upset by it he will probably feel remorse.
2006-08-23 08:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by prizzma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that means he doesnt like you for you...if he wants to change u that means that he just went out with you cuz ur probably hot or something like that. guys like that arent worth your time becuz even if u do become like that girl he's comparing you to he's gonna want u to change to comething else. nothing is ever gonna satisfy him. i say u either tell him straight up to stop comparing you to other girls or else he'll regret the consequences. if he doesnt stop show him how it feels and compare him to other guys. if that just causes tension then break up with him. i can already tell he's turning out to be a jerk
2006-08-23 09:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is cool for him to compare you too his friends girl. That is why she is HIS FRIENDS GIRL and he should not have to care about her. I think it is okay to compare relationships once in a while depending on what it was, but don't worry about it too much about it for now.
2006-08-23 08:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by blinkdan04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how funny to hear that, my man does the same freaking thing!!!
he tried comparing me to this ghetto as* i mean ghetto bi*** and he later found out that she was the most rude, hateful, dumb Brod from a friend of his. that S.O.B has not done it since!!!
oh yeah also we will be listening to the radio and he will hear a dedication from a girl to a guy and he will say something stupid like " oh how sweet, now that's a down as* girl who's there for her man " can you believe that??
find some cute guy and do the same thing.
2006-08-23 08:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he was doing it in a negative way explain that he hurt your feelings. Tell him that you are who you are & you thought that he liked you for you. .. make sense?
If you're really mad you could Confront him about it & let him know that you are your own person & if he wants to be with someone LIKE HIS FRIENDS GIRLFRIEND then he can do so.
2006-08-23 08:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the conclusion of the comparison - if he says that you're hotter than she is, and that your relationship is founded on trust, honesty and love, then you should react with a bj and some great butt shaking action.
2006-08-23 08:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to go date her if he likes her so much. I had an ex that compared me to her ex and I said, "Why don't you just get back together with him?" That shut her up.
2006-08-23 08:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think everyone does that and thinks about things like that. Usually it is just a thought though. Did he say this out loud in front of other people, or just you?
2006-08-23 08:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Parker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him if he is not happy with you or your relationship to move on and find someone else.. plus what you see of someone or someones relationship in public is not always as it is in private
2006-08-23 08:49:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋