No one fells out from love , they fell out from commitment.Today no lifetime commitment in marriage anymore . Hey I been in an abruseful marriage so I know what it is all about but that is no excuse to get a divorce. Marriage is UNTIL DEATH. When you speak those words " TILL DEATH DO US PART " that is exactly what it means. Honor the sanctity of marriage all of us have to do. My husband { Paul Heinz } was the one who filed for that coward 's way out divorce from OUR ORDAINED marriage God joined in the first place because for 5 years now he is in adultery with my x-best friend. Also both of them are abusing our children because they know that they are doing adultery which is agaisnt God totally. My 2 children who r with me do NOT ever be apart their Father's adultery life and the other child does not want to have any part of her sister , her brother & my life. That teen is giving major problems for Paul now , I knew that she would. Paul could care less for our children & me , it shows.
2006-08-23 08:29:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
'Cause divorce is too easy to get in this country
2006-08-23 08:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all let me say to the comment above, NO ONE deserves to be abused!! Now on to the rest of the discussion. Yes marriage should be till death do you part, and is a holy vow between two people and God. Do I belive that God would want someone to stay in a marriage with someone who is abusive, NO. There are acceptable reasons for divorce and that is one of them.
Your divorced and from what I understand I would say that is a good thing. I do not see God saying you should have stayed and been abused or let you children be abused. You are to protect them, not place them in harms way.
In my opinion you need to seek a pastor or christian council to better guide you and teach you what God really means and expects from you and your vows you make. It is in the Bible that adultry is an acceptable reason for divorce.
2006-08-23 15:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by wiazardofoz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I believe that many people don't know how to commit with one another and stay married. Many people cheat on their spouse. However, I don't think divorce is a cowards way out in some cases. My Aunt married a guy and had 2 kids (my cousins) with him, he was a great guy... or so we thought.
Years later he was abusing my aunt mentally, verbally, physically. She stayed with him for the kids. However, that wasn't such a good plan because when they were about 10 and 13 he started abusing them as well. He didn't just beat, he used a stove to try and burn them, made them eat dog feeces until my aunt finally divorced and escaped this insane crazed man. So, if you think she was a coward for that; then that's utterly ridiculous because sometimes divorce is necessary.
2006-08-23 15:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know that is why some women end up dead because of the "til death do we part" Is that really how you want your marriage to end?
Hate to tell you this but your children will end up with their dad if you keep trying to drill it into their head about their dad's adultry... It happens all the time. O.k. so you are hurt that he left you for another women.. happens all the time.. she was wrong messing with a married man but.. you are doing wrong now by pushing your beliefs onto your children.. It could come up and bite you in the behind..
Sorry I dont' mean to sound mean.. but.. girl.. you have to get a grip.. can't fight it.. If a man doesn't want you then you can not black mailing him into loving you.
2006-08-23 15:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Any woman who lets a man abuse her & show that kind of example to her children almost deserves what she gets. Notice I said "almost". Do not use God as your excuse for being too dumb to get you and your children out of a horrible situation. All you are doing now is making yourself sound like an illiterate religious fanatic trying to turn your children against their father. You have no need to do that. Children are not stupid, and they can clearly see what has been going on. Since your belief in God is strong, trust HIM to take care of this matter in HIS own good time. In other words, what goes around comes around. Your husband will get what he deserves one way or the other without you tainting yourself or your children with hate. It will do you more harm than it does him.
2006-08-23 15:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're pathetic! If you want to call your husband a coward for divorcing you, then knock yerself out! Just don't come to this board to post the same thing over and over and over again and call everyone who gets divorced a coward. Sometimes, divorce IS necessary, especially when one of the spouse is physically, mentally abusive to his family. Why don't you worry about your own life and stop sticking your nose in everybody else's business...and...
stop using God as an excuse for your own inability to do anything about your own situation!
2006-08-23 15:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, They say That "Hell hath NO fury like A woman scorned", I've been there..I still feel the sting sometimes especially when I look into the lives of those we through the grace of God Almighty created...Til death do you part is just an expression trust me you could still be in that relationship and you know what ..It's "dead', the only one who can resurrect anything is The Great IAM himself ...If You wanna blame anybody DON'T SAY THE DEVIL MADE ME DO IT"...bLAME EVE FOR ENTICING DUMB ADAM WHO WAS SUPPOSE TO BE HER HEAD...THE subject could go on and on but Let the DEAD bury their DEAd...
2006-08-23 15:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by e.t. 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a bitter, bitter woman who is taking out her frustrations with her ex-husband on her kids. STOP THAT!
Stop poisoning your children against their Father. It is wrong! Regardless of what he may have done to you or is doing in his life now, it is none of your business and should have NO bearing on whether he gets to have a relationship with his children. Your claim of "abuse" because of adultery is ridiculous! Stop living in the past and MOVE ON!
You have a very unhealthy attitude and I suggest you get yourself some counselling to get over your feelings of bitterness about your ex-husband and ex-friends actions.
Poisoning your children against their Father is inexcusable and immature behaviour on your part. You should be ashamed of yourself, using religious dogma to brainwash your kids against their Father.
Get over yourself and move on and don't do anymore emotional damage to your children!
2006-08-23 15:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh, geez, grow up!!! people change and not always for the better. If someone is an abuser, then DUMP THAT IDIOT!!! Life is too short to be miserable!
2006-08-23 15:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you are for real you are an idiot. if you would really stay in an abusive (look at the spelling) then you are an idiot. you probably deserve to be beat. you ask such dumb questions, i want to hit you.
2006-08-23 15:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by mml619 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋