i dunno y but wen my bf hits my i dont really care i kinda like it 2 he doesnt do it hard and he is kinda controlling like wen were eating out he orders 4 me cuz he doesnt want a fat gf even tho im skinny and he picks my clothes that part is kinda annoying tho but i really luv him and were suppose 2 b getting married next month and hes rich and romantic wat do u think i should do?
2006-08-23 08:27:56 · 15 answers · asked by pink_panther112594 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Almost sounds like you two are in a D/s relationship; Dominant/submissive. There is nothing wrong with that if it's what you truly enjoy. My husband and I have a D/s relationship and have many friends into the Lifestyle. It's what we enjoy and it brings each of us peace. Look up info on the Lifestyle or the subject BDSM (Bondage/Dominance/Submision/Sato-Masicism). You might be surprised and what you discover about yourself and him.
When he hits you, does he do this during sex, while playing or is he angry/upset. If it's during sex then it can be considered a form of play. If he hits you when he's angry... then get out, don't marry him, it will only get worse.
Above all you must be open & honest with yourself. Is this something you really want? Can you live with him and his dominant personality? Talk with him about your fears and concerns; communication is crucial in ALL relationships.
Oh and there is a big difference in being submissive and being a slave. Submission is a gift with constant open communication between both individuals involved in the relationship. A slave relinquishes all control or say so in all matters; they more or less become a doormat. I am a submissive, not a slave, and my husband (Dominant) knows this very well.
Again... open communcation is a must. Hope this helps.
*HUGZ*
Dee
2006-08-23 08:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by !*Tejasgal94*! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN LIKE THE WIND! There really really are other stunning rich guys out there that are willing to love you and spoil you! I swear, people just dont get that, but there are! This may be ok now, and you may love him now - but trust me honey, LOVE IS BLIND. Once you're married, he's just gonna get fat and ugly, boss you around, lock you up in a room, beat you in front of your kids. Your children will become controlling just like him, and then be cruel to their wives and girlfriends! He'll have other girlfriends who aren't as easy to control (which is far sexier let me tell you). You are about to ruin your life! This is just the tip of the iceberg, the rest of it (i.e the rest of your life) is the iceberg! Why do women honestly believe they dont deserve better? We all do! He may be nice, rich, fun, good looking and all that. But marriage is NOT butterflies and sunshine! You aint seen nothing yet! He hasn't even started to show you that side yet! Get Out, Someone out there loves you enough to respect you and your rights to order your own food, your right to choose your own clothes, and your right to not be degraded with hitting! If you stay, you are just like the rest of society that make this world a sad sad place!
2006-08-23 08:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by PennyLane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should read what you just wrote ... WTF ... Not sure who taught you what's right and what's wrong .. but you need some serious guidance ... if you marry him ... he will control everything you do for the rest of your life ... and from the sounds of it ... he'll probably cheat on you too ... but hey you love him and want to be with him ... so whatever ... go be with some loser that doesn't respect you enough to even let you be yourself .. he's pretty much building his very own slave .. and you're letting him ... !
My ex-husband use to tell me things like " you look good, but if you wore this then you would be even hotter " ... that's not a real compliment ... that's just his way of saying you're not good enough for him ... unless you change ... well if you're not willing to be molded into his "perfect" wife .. then I would get the hell out now .. before you have to pay for it during the divorce ( which aren't cheep by the way ) ... !
2006-08-23 08:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck!!!! OK hes rich and romantic, But what the??!!!
So your gonna marry him..Well do you want this to happen to your kids?? Oh yeah you can't have kids because you'll get FAT!!
Why would you let him control you so bad? Was your father like this with your mother? Were you neglected as a child? Girl, sorry but there's major issues her.. It's not right.
2006-08-23 10:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS SO NOT WORTH IT! He should love you just the way you are....whether or not u gain any extra pounds or decide to wear what you want to wear...and if he hits you now..who knows what is going to happen once u guys get married? He has the power over u....cuz u let him..i mean he could kill you! He has a problem i dont care how rich he is
2006-08-23 08:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by Soccer Rocks! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound crazy! How the hell do you like when he hits you? He must dont love you. If you love someone you wouldnt hurt them! and it dont matter if he doesnt hit you hard he still hit you! Well its seems to me you like abusive people so maybe you should marry em... you seem to be just as crazy as he is so maybe yall should be together.
2006-08-23 08:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jmelia213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say, if you like him you should marry him, but confront him before the wedding and just have a conversation with him and bring up the annoying thing's he does and ask him if he can stop those before you get married.
2006-08-23 08:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he controls u now, he will control u after the marriage 2. he may even wnt u to not get out of the house. u have to stand up 4 urself. cuz right now, he is controling ur life. by the time u marry him nxt month, he might even wnt to choose ur friends later. if u don't do smthing right now, u'll regret it. DO SMTHING, IT UR LIFE NOT HIS
2006-08-23 08:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by naneya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run are fast as you can. GET AWAY FROM HIM!!! DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN. You love him more then you do yourself and that's not good. You really need to talk to someone. Please find a locate women shelter in you area and find someone who can help you get out of this relationship quickly and safely. Who cares how much money he has. You can take care of yourself.
2006-08-23 08:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by L'teefaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me that looks like an abusive realationship...he has control over you...if he is doing this now...it will get worse later..and if don't get away you could end up dead...
2006-08-23 08:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by smurfy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋