my wife's left with my neighbor for a holiday without telling me. i find myself attracted to his lonely wife

Question

WHAT SHOULD I DO? They come back after one week. I am alone in my apartment. She is alone in hers. I feel like hugging her when I see her with tearful eyes in the balcony. I am just feeling so attracted towards her. It's true at the back of the mind I am feeling if my wife and her husband can do it, is it too wrong for us? She seems to be conveying so much with her sad eyes to me. WHAT DO I DO?

Sex is not the question here friends. I am an Indian and men and women here do not jump to bed that easily. But I genuinely feel for this lady. She's been cheated by my wife's lover. We two are in the same sinking boat...

my wife didn't leave me. she went on an assignment and i discovered from my neighbour's wife that her husband's gone to the same place. they were seen together a couple of times before. also my wife has been growing apart from me for quite some time. all i want to ask is how do i convey my feelings for my neighbour's wife at this stage? how do i know whether she feels for me in the same way or not? both of our spouses went to this same small place — "for work". they are together for sure. i am tearing my hair apart. life's such a lie.

Answer 1

All the luck,
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Answer 2

I'd say "keep eachother friendly company" but obviously you're getting ***** just by thinking about her.. so I'd stay far far away from her..

Don't dare justify messing with her, just because you think your wife might be doing so with her husband..

I must say, it's quite f*cked up your wife left with the neighbour guy.. infact, this sounds so absurd, that I'm not sure you aren't just making up this story.. if it is true, you should be finding out asap what this crap is all about, and divorce her if she's sleeping around with your neighbour.. and only AFTER you are divorced, find another woman.. not while you're still married. So maybe you can swap partners, either married or not.. and as sick as I think this is, you're all adults (I hope) and you can make your own decisions, as long as all 4 of you agree and stuff isn't done behind each other's back..

If I were you, I'd run away as hard as I could, and start a new life that is more dignified. Especially if you have kids in the marriage.

Answer 3

You Say ... "Life Is Such A Lie" why is that you are feeling that life is a lie... dont you think you are also of the same mentality as that of your wife ???/ She is doing which is obviously wrong and not acceptable but how about you ??? dont you think if you would have got a chance and have got gutts you also would have done the same thing with your neighbours wife??? who permits you to think of her tears and sorrow when you think that you are a loyal husband... do you really think you are loyal to your wife... I must say that if your wife has gone out with other man then you only would have made her slipped out of your hand.
No girl/boy like pollygamy if they are being satisfied with their respective partners and have got strong "Sanskaars" if youe wife is taking a stupid step then in such case you are equally responcible for her step. And the worst thing is that now also you are not thinking to regain her confidnce or sitting with her to discuss the reason of such action instead you are worried about your neighbour's wife????
....You And Your Wife Are Actually Made For Each Other....
Search for some couple and start Swapping.. thats the only thing which is best suited for a person like YOU.

Answer 4

This story sounds made up, but okay, life is strange sometimes. Wake up, your wife just left you. Do you really want her back after she pulls something like that? Your wife probably assumes you won't but she did it anyway, and how do you know she will be back in a week...?! I'm not going to tell you not to get together with the other wife because, well that's your business, but it's better if you wait for the divorce to become more than a friend, then you will be completely blameless.

Answer 5

it never ceases to amaze me how our minds can take a scenario & without the least bit of effort make the most horrifying results we can imagine. So, your wife is guilty of not notifying you of her intentions. Does that make her guilty of adultery. She left with your neighbor, duh!, not some mysterious man you have no idea of. You sound like you are looking for an excuse to be the Captain Save-A-Hoe for a situation that is being blown out of context. Where are these two runaways going to return to. Their homes. Their so-called spouses. Come man, are you really that insecure about YOUR wife that she can't go away for a few weeks. So what it's with YOUR neighbor, don't be such a wussy. You trusted her when you married her give her the benefit of the doubt. But, if you really have a deep seeded thing for the neighbor's wife & she is really appealing to you in her so-called time of distress then put your cape on dude. Go get her. Is it really her your feeling sorry for or is it yourself? Stick & Stones can break bones, but you are going to literally "KILL YOURSELF" and take a hostage in the process. Be a man & suck it up. Deal with your wife & leave his alone.

Answer 6

In the first place, you're wife went on a holiday with your neighbour which in other meaning is cheating on you and you are attracted to your neighbour's cheated wife.

If youre going to have a relationship with your neighbous wife, don't make the mistake that she's only giving you the "Come here" hint only to get revenge on her husband.

That would just hurt wouldn't it? A girl you like is only gonna go out with you because she wants revenge.

So just make it clear that she's not doing that.
Plus, she might no even be thinking about getting a new boyfriend.

Answer 7

You have a lot of things to clear up before you start making out with your neighbor's wife!!! Regardless of her teary eyes on the balcony.
Why did your wife leave? Did his wife know they were going? Is this something that just happened. You don't sound the least bit upset about it, just looking with randy eyes at your neighbor. So maybe there wasn't much of a marriage to destroy.

Answer 8

The first Q. is : do you know all the consequences of it, I
mean all of it, to risk everything you got with your wife and
maybe more? Or is it ,that you just looking for an adventure?
If you still love your wife, you might better take that week and
work on it to find a way to get a better relation to your own wife!
Or see a good friend, to hang out with and enjoy your one week
in a way without causing trouble!
I hope you make the right decision,good luck!

Answer 9

What your wife is doing is not very decent and respectful. I don't understand the particulars of why she is leaving with someone's husband, but I certainly understand why you are feeling a tug of attraction to this other woman. In my opinion, you shouldn't be so rash about things with "tearful eyes"(don't know her name so I'll stick with this). Don't do something that you'll regret and beat yourself over about. Again, I certainly understand the reason of you feeling this attraction, perhaps its pity bringing you to your knees. Give your wife an ultimatum if that'll help.

Answer 10

Umm, instead of swooning over the lonely wife, pack up your belongings and clear out of the house before your wife comes back. File for divorce, put the house up for sale and then go next door and have crazy sex with the lonely neighbor.

Answer 11

Am I understanding this correctly...Your wife went on holiday with your neighbor's husband and left you home alone? Your wife and your neighbors husband are having an affair. But of course you didn't need me to tell you that....Perhaps you should just join a swingers club! You do the neighbors wife while he does your wife...Everyone will be happy! Yayyyyy for swingers!