did his feelings change later in time?or did they stay the same?? what has gotten better in your situation or what has gotten worse???
2006-08-23 08:17:12 · 12 answers · asked by miss me! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
im just asking cuz im in that situation...i just found out im pregnant & the daddy told me that he does not want this child... what is your story??
2006-08-23 08:22:33 · update #1
yes, but you know what it;s not his decesion, it's yours. you do what you feel is right, and hell with the rest. once your child is born the courts will make him pay child support for your child,after a DNA est is done to prove he's the father. His feelings never changed nor did he stay the same. He just decided to never be apart of my sons'life.The only better was me raising my child by myself,with out any help from nobody. I lived the worst and I lived the good.But by doing it yourself, you learn from the mistakes,and go on to a big and better way of life. Don't force something on him that he doesn't care two cents for, God will provide for all your needs if you only let.
2006-08-23 08:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by patricia h 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have two who have fathers I didn't marry or stay with. With the first one, the father left the state before I had the baby. He was too young to even think about being a dad. Later when he came back to the area, he and my son got to know each other. But the situation turned bad because he became an alcoholic and wasn't able to be much of a father.
The second is pretty similar really. I had a problem "falling in love" with alcoholics who were nice guys but not able to be family men. I take responsibiity because I hadn't resolved my childhood issues as the child of an alcoholic. I'm done with it all now, but I can't fix the mistakes I made. So I try to help others by sharing my experiences.
2006-08-23 15:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jazmanana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question. Never had a baby before myself but I would like to put my 2 cents in. I think you should just always keep in mind that the baby is a part of YOU as well and if the daddy don't want anything to do with it doesn't mean you should feel the same way. In the end... follow YOUR heart. God Bless!!!
2006-08-23 15:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by sha scrilla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a guy does and says are 2 different things. He may change his mind later, but be prepared if he doesn't. The father of mine wanted it and then changed his mind about 7 months into it. Hasn't really been around in the past 11 years and I'm happier for it.
2006-08-23 15:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by sammie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The father of my child did want him when we found out I was pregnant, he is a great father and we are going to get married soon. Even though it was a teenage pregnancy I'm glad it happened, it brought me closer to my fiance and I have a new best friend.
2006-08-23 15:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage over a year ago, but when I told the potential father that I was pregnant, he said he didn't want it. After I told him about the miscarriage he didn't care about it so it was to his favor that I lost it. I'm over it, because If I would have had the baby, I would have to deal w/ that man for the rest of my life... Plus, I'm doing a lot w/ myself to make sure that when I do get pregnant, I'm 100% ready, and it's w/ someone who wants to be w/ me and the baby...
2006-08-23 15:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sperm donner begged my to keep my son. Then when it was too late he said that he wanted me to get rid of him. He found out it was a boy so he was happy. Then the questions came once my son was born because of the color of his skin and texture of his hair. Then my son started to look just like him so he was very proud. Then we broke up and he has another girlfriend, so since we aren't together, he puts my son off. He even has to sneak and see him. Because of all the stress he put me through during my pregnancy. my son has developmental delays. He is a normal child but he gets therapy and needs extra help physically. Think long and hard before reacting.
2006-08-23 15:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by cdj514 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son's father was pissed off only because I told him I refused to get an abortion. We barely spoke during my pregnancy. His family was very supportive and I kept in contact with them.
We went thru very rocky times for about two years after our son was born. I never pushed the issue with him and just raised him without his support. At times his father would come around and we would start to build a parental relationship, but that went out the window when he started dating girls. Those girls would become jealous that him and I spoke and were getting along.
I finally just stopped communicating with him. My son never really had a very strong bond with his father. As long as I was around he didn't care about anyone else.
To be honest I have received a lot of negative feedback that my son was going to be traumtized because I stopped the vistiation and communication. But I never pulled my son away from his father in revenge or to play games. I pulled my son away because his father was making immature decisions and putting other things first.
My son is now four and his father has matured and we are currently rebuilding the relationship. I have never received child support from his father. We have never went infront of a judge to establish custody or support. I doubt I ever will.
I see me as my son's sole provider. I work 2 jobs to support my son and myself.
I just take it day by day with my son's father. I remain civil with him and friendly with him. I have harsh feeling for him but my son has never seen that, nor will he ever see it.
2006-08-23 18:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by ktwister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He said he wanted them, but changed his mind. The situation only got worse.
2006-08-23 15:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by christine1_4843 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES !! HE DID WITH MY FIRST CHILD AND TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT MY BABY WILL BE 12 IN NOVEMBER AND SHE LOVES ME HARDER BECAUSE I'M THE MOTHER AND FATHER... THE LORD IS MY HELP...
2006-08-23 15:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋