2006-08-23 08:07:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You've got to remember that if people see you as an easy target to bend to their ways they will always try and do it more, you have to use a firm tone and if they don't listen keep on at them. Failing that slap them. Hard.
2006-08-23 21:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should learn to believe in what you want and make decisions even if you are not sure. Saying no can be hard but if you believe in yourself it will also help to give you confidence. Maybe stand back from things for a while and think about the fact you are just a much a person as everyone else and your thoughts count too! Maybe try and think of a situation where you know you are likely to just agree, and perhaps think that next time you will express you're opinion in what you would prefer to do even its just arranging what time to meet someone. Once you express an opinion, however trivier it may be, I'm sure then you will inevitibly live up to your expections and you will find that you can be confident if you believe in your opinion and it will help you to not be so shy.
I hope this helps! Just remember to think to yourself that it can be easy just to say "no-perhaps this instead" or what ever.
Having said all of this I my self am also quite shy but just try and make yourself make decisions even if they are'nt always right and you will find some confidence in yourself!
Best Wishes!!
2006-08-23 08:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Seriously Though 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The day someone else gets credit for your hard work. Boy does it hurt. You'll soon learn to say no.
2006-08-23 08:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan, reborn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well donna i used to be just like u and believe me if u can be strong enough to say no to people if you dont want to do something then please do say it. im 35 yrs old and for best part of my life i found it hard to say no and people tend to walk all over u aswell as cause lots of mental strain and damage do it for yourself b4 it causes u to many problems remember your not saying anything wrong just because u say no. good luck.x
2006-08-23 08:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by fannyannie_1971 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only experiance and confidence in youself will ultimately help
I'm still getting there at 30 something!
2006-08-23 08:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by Dick Dastardly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep saying no to yourself until you drive your self up the wall and go bonkers !
2006-08-23 13:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by ralphthemouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let people pressure you, if you say "no" just back it up with an explanation, then people will realise you aren't being mean, but that you are no longer a door mat.
2006-08-23 08:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by Summer Rain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd say read a book called "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers, its really really helpfull...A brill friend recomended it to me, I read it and its done me nothing but good.
2006-08-23 08:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by jolenenicola 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
say no and state your reasons and if it doesnt work be firm and say sorry but I have already made up my mine
2006-08-23 08:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First stamp your foot. That will make you assertive. The say "NO"!. What is it that you are saying No to?
2006-08-23 08:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Saudi Geoff 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋