what should i do?

Question

i'm married with 2 beautiful girls but recently i've been in contact via email on myspace with an ex boyfriend from the past (10 yrs ago)... he was my first love... i had to move away with my mom.. so we kind of lost touch.. but come to find out he married my best friend.. which they have a son together... i admit, i am jealous.. dont know why i feel this way.. but, its seems he's happy as i am with my husband of 10 yrs also... i just wonder if he thinks of me or misses me or wonders of what it *could of been*... am i wrong to feel this way? should i back off or keep it casual and still remain in touch... it's hard to remain friendly without feelings.. please help on any advice... i wonder days if he feels the same way about me?

Answer 1

I have had the same thing happen to me here lately. My first GF every has just recently started emailing me, some how she found my email address. and trust me all these old feelings and memories poped up again.
do I think its normal? yes I do, its soemthing about that first love that you never looose. do I think its a sign?
No Idont, there is reason why you never married him and you married the man you are with now. I would never go behind my wifes back and cheat on a old love. Agian there is a reason tyou nver married him
but the feelings are normal.

Answer 2

Nothing good can come of this. Let it drop. You've got everything to lose and nothing to gain. We can't always help what the heart wants. But if we step back long enough for the brain to engage we usually find that we are capable of making the right choice.
Chances are that yes, he does think about it too. That's what we humans do. It's fun. Those old romantic feelings bubbling up from a time when we were so much younger, more innocent and oh so naive. Feels sort of naughty to think about it, doesn't it. You can remember each other as you were before the passing of ten years, the stress of career, children, car payments, marriage and mortgages. Lucky you, because you got the opportunity to experience those emotions with no one being the wiser. No one gets hurt. Perfect. But it's fantasy and should be left well enough alone, especially if either one or both the parties are married or otherwise attached.
What you are feeling is normal hon, and it will pass if you let it go. Maybe it will give a little extra 'zing' to the marriage for a while. Sounds like you're in a good situation. The grass, they say, is always greener on the other side of the fence...but once you climb the fence...which is the 'other side'? Stay off the fence sweetie, you won't regret it.

Answer 3

Don't you think it's probably because you never got any closure? You moved away with your mom so the relationship ended, not because you didn't love him anymore. In a way, your old feelings for him are still intact. If you were to meet him and got to know him as he is now, you would probably think he's a nice guy but not as great as your own husband. I think the feelings you have for him are old feelings that just have been stirred up by meeting him on myspace.

Answer 4

Anything you're doing that would be hurtful to your husband or children is wrong. What difference does it make, what could have been? If you're happy then leave it alone! If your husband finds out, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be happy about it, then you've ruined your great life for what? Some freakin emails? Girl don't make me reach through this keyboard and smack you across the head. You've been blessed in so many ways, great husband, beautiful children, don't be greedy.

Answer 5

wow !!!That's a big one, I think you need to be strong, and stay away from him to keep your marriage safe. Just prove him that you have full respect for your family
good luck !