My daughter's father and I are great friends, and he married a friend on mine (I finally got over that), and he cheats on her. He tells me about these sex-capades with different and we laugh about it. All I do is tell him that she will find out, just like I did. He also gets up set b/c she is untrusting of him (rightfully so) but she knew all of the things he put me through and still married him. I guess my question is are he and I wrong for being so close (oh, we live 1000 miles away from each other)and telling each other dman near every thing in out relationships???
2006-08-23 08:03:26 · 5 answers · asked by vernise2679 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not wrong to have a good friendship with an ex, it shows that you are not holding a grudge dispite the pain he put you through. Also, with all the stuff he is telling you, it shows you how lucky you are that you got out of that relationship and will make you realize he is not someone you would be interested in romantically.
As for your friend, she's getting her karma. She knew how much he put you through and you were her friend and she married him. She was wrong for doing that and now what goes around is coming around on her. Now, she'll go through pain.
You don't have to tell her anything that he tells you and feel guilty that you haven't because you know what? When you were with him and she knew all of the pain he put you through, that was warning enough that he wasn't a good boyfriend/husband. She didn't take warnings and chose to be with him, so she gets what she deserves.
I applaud you for forgiving your ex & moving on to a good friendship.
2006-08-23 08:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, what the present wife would see from this is that there could be a means of you two getting back together from the new found closeness. He's comfortable telling you everything because you suppose to know him well enough that he can trust your not telling, and when he comes back to say he wants you back then you will know all he's done before making a decision. This was the type of trust that should have been in place during your marriage to him. If it were you, how would you react to this relationship with an ex? She's going to think you are the one he's cheating with regardless to what the two of you say once she finds out. You need to back off to a reasonable time regarding him.
2006-08-23 10:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong, he trusts you and finds you to be a good friend....and probably felt that way while you were married and that's why he could justify cheating on you. He sounds like he has no idea what he wants but enjoys talking to you about it. As long as you are not bothered by him telling you all of this, there's nothing wrong with having a good friend to talk to.
2006-08-23 08:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being cheated on is not a good feeling you should know.Is the woman still your friend to or did you only forgive your ex.What goes around comes around he will reap what he sow.Why are you so close to someone who lies,cheat,on his wife and he did it to you also.Like the saying goes birds of a feather flock together.Maybe your close to him because your the same way he is.
2006-08-23 08:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. If he is telling you more than his wife, he is cheating on her with you. Why not tell your ex-friend that he is cheating? Tape the conversations and give it to her to HELP HER OUT. Good gried, he is an ex for a reason. Keep communication to about the kid.
2006-08-23 08:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋