my turkish boyfriend wants to get married but i don't know what his mother will think of me as i am not turkish. also does any one know what turkish men are like when they are married will they be the same?
2006-08-23 07:59:50 · 12 answers · asked by pink_ballerina_2k6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I impressed his mom by how much his son adored me and gradually all the other personal attributes were complimented during our marriage.
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As for you,depending on your guy and his family culture,whether he be from a city or countryside,and their traditions..In general, if the guy wants to get married, he has to think of how his mother will think about in Turkey.Personal qualities will be effective and dominant as is anywhere in the world like being sympathetic, dynamic, friendly, modest, honest, talkative..Turkish men are emotional to people they care about , but they can be sensitive too..
So when married to turkish men, will they be the same?
It is not easy to talk in general..Every person has different characteristics..they do not live in homogenous mediums.You can feel how your turkish friend will behave in later phases if you test and continuosly openly communicate.
Just be yourself and remember tact at all times and you'll be fine and warmly welcomed in his family circle.
Best wishes.
You know..breaking can happen in a short time..if you both have common sense and you both love each other so very much, the relationship can sustain..this is your life..most of the families in Turkey are core families
2006-08-23 08:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a chance, Quite a big chance, that they'll want you to convert to being a Muslim. There are quite a lot of mixed couples in Holland and some guys stay the same but other guys change once they're married and they think that they're the boss and you have to do as they tell you to. Especially when you first child is born. You have to talk about this with him. And you have to use your own judgment. His mother will probably agree to the situation, but don't you want to meet her before you get married? It'll tell you a lot about the way he was raised. I'm sure his mother would appreciate it if she were to met you before the wedding.
2006-08-23 08:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make a traditional turkish dinner with a tradition turkish desert dress conservitavly but nice don't look or act like your trying to hard. Search turkish history and current times so you know where she is coming from and why she would think certain ways. As to does the man change, everyone has expectations of what marriage will be like so there are problems for everyone, but I don't know if he will change like start beating you or not letting you do stuff, ask him what marriage means to him what should you expect being married to him. Also, no matter how mad his mother treats you not treat her bad back, it will just make it worse, just laugh with her and pretend to like the same stuff, its not lying it just causes less stress.
2006-08-23 08:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as for impressing her......you have to be yourself. If that's not a good idea,.....then help her out with things. Be talkative but not TOO talkative. Smile A LOT and be courteous and respectful. Laugh too.....I know this sounds stupid but I've been in that situation and I'm just a laughy and smiley person, ....when it got ugly is when I was in a bad mood, lol
2006-08-23 08:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bailey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Nothing worse than pretending to be someone you're not.
There's a reason your boyfriend is with you and I'm sure his mother will see those qualities in you too.
2006-08-23 08:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by bluesie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter what ethnicity you are, if you really love someone and he loves you back that's really all that matters. Be yourself and act like you normally would around his mom. If she doesn't like you that's her fault, but if he wants to get married then he really love you no matter what anyone thinks of you. He loves you for you so just be yourself when you meet his mother.
2006-08-23 08:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask his mom to show you how he likes things done,what he likes to eat,get her to teach you(by this you honor her),men(all men) can change after the vows.I have a good feeling about you.I think if you smile,learn a few of the customs,and give it time-things will be ok.
2006-08-23 08:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Maw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what she wants you to be like? First and foremost, YOU ARE NOT MARRYING HER! YOU ARE MARRYING HER SON! Secondly, anyone in your life that you can't be yourself around, isn't worth being in your life. Be yourself, if she likes you she likes and if she doesn't (as long as you are good to her son), it is her loss! Don't sweat it dear!
2016-03-17 01:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by Aline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont try to impress her. just be yourself. trying to be foney will not be good. i dont know anything about turkish men. italian, portuguese, i am there. no turkish men in my life. sorry. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-23 08:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im turkish man too . dont worry about his mom im sure she dont want but she ll be ok and nice.
if he is turkish. if he is educated dont worry about ur boyfriend he ll be better. but those points r important Turkish(not kurdish), Educated person
2006-08-23 08:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋