be his friend but it seems like he cant handle just being my friend and i feel sorta bad for him but i sorta feel like he deserves it because he cheated and lied half the time was with him and i was with him for almost 2 years...........i finally got enough sense in my head to end it but .....now he's begging.....i know in my head and in my heart i shouldnt take him back but for some strange *** reason i still sorta love him.........its all so confusing......i know i cant take him back but i still sorta feel sorry for him because im moving on and he isnt ....what should i do?i mean i've told him how i felt but he isnt listening...........
2006-08-23 07:57:40 · 16 answers · asked by jules 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
stop talking to him..he'll get over it
2006-08-23 08:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Evaluate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way to nice!?!?!?! Why in the hell do u feel sorry for him? Was he feeling sorry for u when he was out cheating on you? I don't think so. And why in the world do u keep talking to him? Would you still be talking to him if he had given you a STD? Have you ever heard of a book named "He's Just Not That into You" ? I realize that you still love him and 10 mins from now you will still love him, 10 months from now you might care about him but 10 years from now you won't even remeber the bastards name. Stay strong girl !!!
2006-08-23 15:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by L'teefaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your instinct! If you let him back in things will not change. It sounds like you're a very sensitive, soft hearted person, but you can't let that rule your thoughts. If you know it won't work then you're just wasting your time and getting his hopes up for a reconciliation and that's not right either. Just break the ties and don't even be friendly with him until he's over it.
2006-08-23 15:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by heartforhelping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore his calls, IMs, e-mails, everything and move on with your life. He doesn't deserve you and he's putting you on a guilt trip. Just ignore him for a while and he'll get the message. Don't give in to him or else you'll just end up living a miserable life and sharing the house with 5 of his other girlfriends.
2006-08-23 15:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's hard to say no to somebody especially when (even though they have hurt you) you still love them. Love is very strong as you know but I know you love yourself enough to put it to an end. Just keep telling him although you care about him, friends is all you will ever be and no words that he says now can erase what he did in the past - thats just how it is.
2006-08-23 15:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Gia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest & straight to the point. Sugar coating things and beating around the bush will just make it more difficult to get your point across. If he is a real man, he'll respect your wishes and move on.
2006-08-23 15:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for the hills and tell him his calls, etc are not welcome. Tell him it's too bad it's over, but that's how it is. There are tons of available men around who aren't jerks-you just have to insist on being treated decently. If you accept the kind of behavior he's shown you, it's your fault for being treated poorly. You will never be treated like a goddess by someone like him.
2006-08-23 15:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been with this guy for almost two years so of course you still love him. But listen to your gut. Obvisouly every fiber in your body is telling you not to take back this man.
2006-08-23 15:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by princesscutesmile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo, I have been in that position, and it was with the father of my 4 children, and so many things you have to consider, it's not such an easy solution trust me. In my case HE ended up Marrying SOME woman, like two weeks after our final separation, but had the NERVE to call mua, to announce his wedding...At that time the song CONGRADULATION...I Hope Your Happy...I don't know ...it's been almost 7 years and they're SO close their like bonnie and clyde...OR a dog and his tail....WHATEVER...LIFE GOES ON...
2006-08-23 15:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by e.t. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have had a similar experience. it's hard to let go of someone you care about. i tried to be friends with one of my exes. it worked for awhile. then he disappeared. that hurt me so bad because i wanted his friendship, hoping that we could resolve our issues. later on i have come to my senses. i must move on. i deserve better treatment. you will get over him. it just takes time. by the way, don't even bother with a cheater or player. all they care about are themselves. it's their loss.
2006-08-23 15:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this but move on because he made it bad on hisself when he cheated and lied and hurt you. you were probably the best thing in his life and he abused it. it's good to still love him just don't get too caught up in him again and have to live to regret it. do you girlfriend and let him beg like the dog he is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ha ha
2006-08-23 15:01:28 · answer #11 · answered by Marty Johnson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋