And ladies, don't say it's because the guys turn into big fat losers. A lot of guys stay the same and the activity in the bedroom stops anyhow.
2006-08-23 07:47:38 · 24 answers · asked by hfacto 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh come on, they don't stay the same!! When you are dating you will do whatever it takes, plan special things, be very sweet whatever all with the goal of convincing her to have sex with you. After you get married real life takes over and the effort just isn't there anymore. Sex is mental for women, if you don't have a good day then you won't have a good night. It takes time for a woman to get 'in the mood'. Besides that it is normal for there to be fluctuations in sex drive. Not all women do lose their drive those that do there is something else going on in the relationship. The issue may be sex but that is not the real problem. We see plenty of questions here about husbands that don't want enough sex to please their wives.
2006-08-23 07:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband didn't turn into a big fat loser, but he did stop romancing me. After we got married, we stopped going out as a couple on dates, and he stopped buying me flowers and telling me I looked pretty and so on - you know all those little things you do before you are 100% committed. In other words, he stopped trying to get me into bed and just thought it was enough to roll over and say "wanna do it?"
Just as men *need* sex, women *need* to feel romanced. This does not mean a dozen red roses every other day, but it does mean treating her like a girlfriend instead of old faithful. But too often men make the mistake of NOT treating their wives like the the sexy young things that we always want to be.
2006-08-23 08:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by hannahbean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A women needs to be pleased in the bedroom and that is the only reason she will stop having sex is by not having a reason to do it. Some men want to rush. They will get theirs and forget about their wife. Make sure the women is getting some outstanding orgasms and she will have sex all the time. The more you do it, the more she will crave it. That is from my own experience.
2006-08-23 07:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women do not lose interest in sex. As a metter of fact they like it more the older they get. Some woman never had interst and fake a good orgasm to make their mate happy. After a long day of work or taking care of the kid, or housework or whatever, there is not a lot of energy left for sex.
2006-08-23 08:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by williejuly1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright,I'm so sick of this stereotype.I just got married for the second time.My first husband wasn't very sexually active.This irritated me to no end! Now I'm married to a man 4 yrs. younger and his sex drive has dropped since we got married.He's 26 and I'm 30.I was hoping that because he's younger that this wouldn't be a problem again.He works long hours and is very tired when he gets home.I guess we will never be on the same page on that subject with men.But at least my husband makes a trip to the adult store every now and again to make up for it.
2006-08-23 07:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by jayne s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOME women lose interest because after they get married their lives become Way more complicated.
They have doubled their responsibilites and have tripled if they have a child. If your wife has lost interest....SIT DOWN AND TALK! Men don't know anything about women because they won't talk about things. Letters are good too if you can't communicate effectively face to face.
2006-08-23 10:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Melm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do? Not me been together 5 years and I stilll want that good stuff my husband has. But I have been married before and lost intrest...cause I didn't love him any more. Sometimes it can be because of the busy lives people live. Life gets in the way, you just have to figure out whats more important.
2006-08-23 07:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by e_deckwa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spice things up. Bring a adult movie home u both can enjoy. Give her complements and make her feel sexy and not just in bed. Kiss her often and tell her how much she still turns u on. Run her a buble bath and wash her up. Light candles before going to bed. Women are insecure...she needs to know that u still find her attractive and desirable.
2006-08-23 07:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they just get bored being with the same man over and over and over and over again.........
....at least, thats what guys use as an excuse for looking at porn.....what goes around, comes around.....
oh, by the way, I am NOT married......but I read these questions and it just seems like married people tie the knot and stop devoting themselves exclusivley to that other person...sad state of affairs, really.
2006-08-23 07:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women don't marry for sex. They marry for security, love, compassion, fulfillment. If you married her to only have a wonderful sex life then you are out of balance. You must find ways to balance all your life activities- including sex. make it what she wants it to be- ONE of the most special, pleasurable, emotional experiences in your lives!
Good luck!
2006-08-23 08:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋