How old were you when you started looking, or wanting to look at girlie magazines? My 11 year old son just told me how "curious" he is and asked me to get him a playboy!!! Would any of you have asked your Mom for that?
2006-08-23 07:29:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sports ➔ Baseball
I was probably 11 when I discovered my Dad's "stash" - but I couldn't have ever asked my Mom that...
Just remember if he's in the bathroom to long it's because he is combing his hair :)
I think it's great that he feels he can talk to you on this level.. might be time to have the "talk" with him, before he gets the bad info from the kids at school...
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2006-08-23 07:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess my big question would be: What exactly is it they want to know? Can I just show them a biology book? I mean is it anatomy? Or do they want to know what naked women look like? Seeing as how Playboy is so airbrushed, that really wouldn't be my choice. I understand the interest in porn and if they were willing to look at it with me and discuss what they saw and how they felt. Embarrassing but that's how it would be. I would not let him keep the mag and if they wanted to masturbate, that's fine, but I won't do something illegal, I would make sure my porn is locked up, and the household computer would be in a public place with filters. I don't have an issue with porn, but I am not going to do something illegal to enable my child to look at images he doesn't have the emotional ability to handle. I am a firm believer in open discourse about sex with children and if they are old enough to ask then they are old enough to hear something. Maybe not an X-rated version, but an educational one. When I asked my mom about porn she got one of her and Dad's tamer ones, and a Playboy. She explained that people liked watching other people have sex. She explained what was going on and why. She showed me that playboy had articles as well as pictures and that the pictures were "airbrushed" so the women looked perfect. That the magazine was about fantasy not reality. I was around 12 at the time.
2006-08-23 14:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sterling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not my mom...I think his innocence is speaking for his in-experience...that's about the age when you are curious about your own body and that of those the opposite of you...I am not sure how old I was but I didn't pass on checking a national geographic magazine and that wasn't because I was so studious...what did you do?
2006-08-23 17:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
G'day Sasha,
Thank you for the question.
It shows that you have a very open line of communications with your son that you should be careful not to lose. It is valuable if your child thinks he can talk to you openly about things.
The short answer is that I didn't speak to my Dad about it. My mother died when I was eight but I wouldn't have asked her either.
Boys in my area started being interested in these things about ten or eleven. My friends would find copies of their Dads collection of porn magazines and the like. This was in the early 70s before video.
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Your son's curiousity suggests that it is a good time to speak openly with your son if you haven't already about sex. It might be a job normally done by his father but given that you have open lines of communication with your son, it might be better to have you do it. If possible, you and your husband should discuss the matter soon ie within the next few days.
It is perfectly normal for your son to start being interested in girls at that age although it might shock you that your son is growing faster than you thought. One of his parents should try and speak openly with him about sex and what will happen over the next few years.
You should try and speak openly with your son about issues as he grows up. It might not always be possible as you might remember disagreements with your parents when you were growing up.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Regards
2006-08-23 15:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not have asked my Mom for that.
It would be totally inappropriate for you to give in to his request because 'girlie' magazines are definitely not designed to educate but rather to titillate. If you want to help him satisfy his curiosity, I would recommend taking him to any of many public museums whose art in the form of paintings, photographs, and sculptures can help him answer his own questions about the human body...
2006-08-23 14:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the new world, where parents have given up the right to parent their own children! How does it feel when the control is no longer in your hands. Who can you blame, your own parents!!! We try so hard to not be the parents we had that we forget to be parents at all. If you knew what was going on in your child's life, you would not be sitting at a computer asking the world such a private question, and you would be more active in your child's life; except for the fact that your at your computer.
Your eleven year old is asking for attention, give him some, and spend less time with the computer!
2006-08-23 14:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Insight 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, but be thankful your son is open with you. It's normal curiosity to see pictures.. Pick one up and read it before you give it to him, you may be surprised as to the article content. The magazine is more than just a "peep show".
2006-08-23 14:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Papa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was probably 8 or 9, I would never talk to my mom about that stuff not even my dad. It's a good sign that he asked you to get him one, that means he's open to you and trusts you. You and your husband should both talk to him if he feels comfortable talking about these things with his dad, but if not then you shoulod atleast talk to him. I learned from TV and friends, but these aren't always good sources.
2006-08-23 14:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by GR8 ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like 10 when I found my first girlie mag in the trash boy was that a cool mag. for a 10 year old that was like heaven. hell my mom would have probably purchased one for me as long as it's wasn't the one she was in that is.
2006-08-23 14:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by hair_of_a_dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends and I stole them from my dad at about 7 years old. I think it is normal behavior. Dad thought it was funny but I don't think I ever asked Mom to get me one.
2006-08-23 14:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by kw13815 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋