Why do you like to control what your husband does? What gives you that authority? How would you handle it if he started resenting you for it?
2006-08-23 07:29:12 · 14 answers · asked by friendlyguy4ya 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I don't control my husband and he doesn't control me. We are equals in our marriage.
2006-08-23 07:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by Meg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel I control my husband there are aspects in our marriage that he has more knowledge in than I do so I let him have the final say or decision, but there are also aspects I find that I am more knowledgeable about so I have the final say. It is a matter of compromise and building on each others strengths that make a successfull marriage. When It comes to small things which I feel that is what your getting at like..... Going Out, Watching T.V., Visiting Friends, etc. I do find that we BOTH will tell the other our opinions. What gives us the right to do that? A paper called a marriage certificate. Like I stated earlier, I find it equals out so there really is no resentment from either one of us, If you are finding there is resentment in your marriage I recommend talking to your mate and finding the root to the problem.
2006-08-23 14:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband had an extreme inability to make descisions and I had to make neccessary choices myself instead of as a team, that would give me authority, no, the responsibility. Not that I would marry a man like that or put up with it, but I know it can be easy to get caught up in a pattern. If he resented me, I would resent him twice as much because he forced me to make all these descisions on my own, which put a lot of pressure on me, not to mention the fact that I saved his *** for going through with it all in the first place. Make sense? Hopefully, it wouldn't get to that point and comunication and confidence would be much better.
2006-08-23 14:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Nehyers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't control my husband ever. The only thing that I demand is total communication. I am not his mother so I don't tell him what to do. I would expect him to resent me if I did. I know that I would resent him if he did it to me. lol
2006-08-23 16:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, but in past relationship I never controlled what he did. If he wanted to go buy something, or go out with his friend then he did. I did the same! No need to be in control. Trust is what makes a relationship last.
2006-08-23 14:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by just me being me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont control my man..sometimes he goes into an immature mode and I have to snap him back into reality by reminding him of priorities but thats the extent I go..and I have every right to have my own opinion and we agree to disagree at times..He has yet to resent me for anything..and I dont plan on giving him that opportunity..
2006-08-23 14:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one I'm not married. For two, if I was married I wouldn't try to control what he does. If I get married I'll marry an individual not a puppet. No one has authority to control anyone else. And anyone who lets themself be controlled by another individual has no one to blame for it but themself.
2006-08-23 14:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Nico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for number one i dont control my husband.
you must be a man. a relationship isnt about control it is about respect and trust. sounds like you need to put your chick in check.
2006-08-23 14:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by faithfullyyours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant stand women who do that! nothing gives us the authority some just take it upon themselves as if they are better....which they are wrong of course
2006-08-23 14:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by Aroura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont control my husband he does what he wants. and i do what i want to. now yeah we do consult each ther for things and stuff. but we ask for each thers opinuon we dont go one sided and dont run either ppl
2006-08-23 14:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋