My fiancee went out to a business mixer and she got to talking to a prominant businessman about a job she is trying to land. The businessman went on to tell her that he garuntees he can get her a job. This job she wants is in a totally different field than the prominant business owners. She came home totally excited and happy, and kept going on and on about this guy. I got mad and told her he was just trying to sleep with her. She got exremely upset with me. Am I over reacting?
2006-08-23 07:27:12 · 19 answers · asked by raiderphan79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like you're overacting! Business men in one field will branch out to other fields so the fact that this job is no relation to their business is irrelevant. You need to support her on this and see if a job does appear. If it does, you were there for her, if it doesn't, you were there for her also but at least she'll be more skeptical next time.
2006-08-23 07:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are overacting a bit. But jealousy is a normal behavior. She probably just came home excited about the possibility of the job. Its okay that you are jealous....but don't get mad at her...she really did nothing wrong. She is with you, and if she was truly hiding anything, or even think this guys wanted to be with her, she wouldn't have told you!
Relax...you can feel jealous...its normal...just don't overreact to it.
Good luck...hang in there.
2006-08-23 15:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by gtw570 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All my ex's would say the same thing and it does come from jealousy. What you dont realize is that basically what your saying to her is "this guy see's no value in you but sleeping with you or your too stupid to realize that this guy only wants to sleep with you". Are you right ? You could be. Men are slime and you thinking that about him only proves you know men are slime too. Telling her that is not a good way to handle anything. She will always get extremely upset. Wouldn't you if the shoe was on the other foot ?
2006-08-23 14:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are! You need to just play the supportive role. Her job seems to mean alot to her so just be a good partner and tough it out. If the guy is really trying to sleep with she'll figure it put & do the right thing I'm sure.
2006-08-23 14:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are. Apologize to her and tell her you feel you over reacted. Since you are a man, I can understand why you would feel that he was up to something because you know what they are thinking. There is no need to worry about or destry your relationship when nothing is going on. Share her happiness with her and encourage her to spread her wings in her career. That will benefit both of you.
2006-08-23 14:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you might think that in your mind, but you shouldn't have said it so suddenly. You should have acted supportive of her ambitions. Anyway, you do not KNOW this guy wants to sleep with her, and so what if he does? Don't you trust her? If she came home "really excited and happy" and you slammed her with "he just wants to sleep with you" then I think you did overreact. At the very least, you acted too suddenly, with not nearly enough information to determine this guy's motives.
2006-08-23 14:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are overeacting.
She is trying to get ahead in her career and this is good oportunity. You are ruining it with your infounded jealousy. Can'y you see? If she was so excited to tell you is because she wanted this for the benefit of both of you, since you are getting married and a great job to start with would be wonderful,
Apologize profusely and support her...
Good luck
2006-08-23 14:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that every time a guy is nice, every other guy in the world swears that he's just trying to get in our pants. I'm so tired of hearing that. You jealous that someone is doing something nice for her.
Do you know how degrading that is to say to someone 'Oh I'm so happy, I met this nice guy and he siad he would help me out with this or that" and ALWAYS the very next thing you hear is "he's just trying to get down your pants." Can't anyone just be nice and helpful?
2006-08-23 14:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no room for jealousy in a relationship or a marriage, Accept always with mature emotions and always have unconditonal love!!!!! Communication skills could improve on both of your behalves. Communicate always with open minds, only controlled agruments are aloowed you'll get much farther....
2006-08-23 14:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. You have to understand her excitement. She's just beaming about him because he's the one who said he could help her. Be supportive with her. You do not want this to backfire in your face. By being jealous, you could push her more in his direction, because she'll resent you for talking Sh*t. Be the bigger person. Tell her you'd like to meet with him the next time she'll be seeing him.
2006-08-23 15:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by mandermar40103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋