how to get over a miscarrage?

Answer 1

Only time and counseling.

Answer 2

I am so sorry for you loss, My wife had 2 miscarrage. She had hard time getting pregant too. When she had the miscarrage, she went thur alot and she was so weak. It will take time and support to get thru it. it was about 7 years before she finally got pregant and we got a heathly girl. but my child did had a club feet, but she dont any more, and she had 6 holes in her heart, but now she got on holes she got healed thru the prayer. If you do some praying and ask the lord to give you a child and live right. the lord will bless you a good child. that is what we did and we are a happiest people in the family. My child is so happy too. she is really smart child. well, any way just pray that the lord give you a child and he will bless you one. God bless you

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your loss. I've had 2 miscarrigaes this year, and it has been the hardest time of my life. Just when I thought things were getting better, the rug was ripped out from beneth me again.

First, you need to know and realize that everyone greives differently and in their own time. You should not try and feel better for other people or on their time table. And don't feel guilty or bad about letting people know if they've said something that is inapropriate or rude. You'll find that when you tell people, most times they don't know what to say to you, or how to act around you.

Second, know that the miscarriage was not and is not your fault. After my second miscarriage I felt like a medical freak! I went back into my doctor and had a bunch of tests run. Turned out I'm totally normal. This made me feel better about my ability to have a child, but didn't take the pain away.

Third, you can still experience post-partum effects after a miscarriage. Get medical help if you are feeling depressed or talk to a therapist or counselor, or ask your doctor for referrals or if there is any sort of support groups in your area. What has helped me the most is talking with other women, who I trust that have had miscarraiges. They understand. I also started to write. I keep a journal now, that is specifiacally related to my miscarriages and how that has made me feel emotionally, physically, spiritually and so on. This has been so very helpful.

Finally, I found a book that was very helpful in dealing with my grief. It's called "Gone too Soon: the life and loss of infants and unborn children." by Sherri Wittwer. (on Amazon.com or deseretbook.com). This book went thru the steps of grief and helped me to realize that I was not going crazy and that many of the feelings I was having were totally normal. Also another book which was very helpful was "Coming to Term" and I can't rembember who wrote it, but this guy's wife had 4 miscarriages in a row. He researched miscarriage and presents a lot of medical facts, but also talks alot about people and their stories.

Again, I'm sorry for your loss, and I can tell you, the world will not end, even though it feels like it some days. You're not alone, and you don't need to feel as if you are. There are many resources and people out there that can and want to help you. Good luck in your healing physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Answer 4

I am truly sorry for your loss, but it is only temporary, if you believe in Christ. Then you will someday see your baby again. It will take time, but you can get through it. If you need someone to talk to, there are counseling services out there. I will pray that you have an easy time letting go. Sometimes things are not as they should be with the fetus and/or its surroundings and it cannot remain. Just let yourself grieve and remember Jesus loves you and the baby too!

Answer 5

I had a miscarriage a year ago. It was hard, but what helped me get over it is knowing that I wasn't ready for a baby, and god knew that I wasn't ready. It's not meant to be sometimes, and one must realize that.

Answer 6

Let time heal you. Remember, IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT AND IT'S FOR THE BEST. There was something wrong with the pregnancy that could've affected your child and it's better that everything is great!

Answer 7

GOD does things for a reason. Maybe the baby was going to be ill and GOD knew you could not handle to see your baby suffer, so he took hi. remember GOD will not send anything you cannot handle. you will have a baby soon and then you can give that baby all you love...

Answer 8

Going to a place like this where woman such as yourself can talk about it. : )
I read a few entries before replied.
And these women seem to know and care.

Answer 9

go volunteer in the special ed dept of your local school and then see if you do not feel better seeing how those children suffer every minute of every day.