He can't orgasm?

Question

My boyfriend and I have a very healthy sex life-- except that sometimes he can't orgasm. I have never been able to get him off, and it always takes a long time for him to do it himself. Is something wrong and is there something we can do?

PS: We're both 19.

Answer 1

Give it a rest for a few days. This way he will build up a urge and some nutt.

Answer 2

This sounds like the basis of real happiness. Really... He can go for ever until you are sorted and then its is just a case of finding how to get him off (better than premature ejac). As for finishing him this will work unless he is unconcious. Buy an Hitachi Magic Wand (in many dept stores or off the Internet). Have him lie on lis back with his legs together and his pen15 erect. You gram it firmly with your left hand around the shaft so the head is exposed but the whole thing is unable to move about. Put the head of the Hitachi on the V shaped bit on the back of his pen15 head and switch on. I promis he will love it and it won't take that long.

Answer 3

If he can maintain his erection, then an occasional lack of orgasm is nothing to be worried about it.

On two occasions, I maintained an erection but I could not orgasm. I think my mind was so out of it due to stress and other issues that the desire to orgasm never came to pass. Maybe spend a little more time in foreplay or spend some time talking about issues before engaging in sex.

Answer 4

A female friend (not lover) who had the bad habit of telling me everything going on in her life once told me of this same problem with her then boyfriend. "We try and try but he won't come. Then I started to cry. What should I do?" I told her that after a long time using his hand (or a massues' hand), her vagina wasn't what he was used to. Just not snug enough. But if he lays off the self-gratification for a few days and spends more time with you, he'll be failing to satisfy you before you know it. A week later she tells me I was right. "3 minutes and squirt, he was done."

Answer 5

Everyone can orgasm. It takes a lot of practice and reading the correct material on how to master this. He may want to talk with his doctor about this as he might have a medical condition that can be taken care of.

Answer 6

well i would suggest alot more foreplay since it takes him along time try to do all you can before sex and maybe that will help him. dont be selfish if he hasnt had his turn let him keep trying.my husband is the same way and sometimes it is so awful to wait for him it takes forever and i want to sleep but i let him do what he needs to,i would ask him what would he like.

Answer 7

I have found when that happens the man is usually one of the two

1. A very heavy drinker and drunk at the time.

2. A hard core drug taker. And on drugs at the time.

If these are not what is going on, then he needs to go see a doctor.

Answer 8

he is probably bored or you all are falling into a routine , i once had a girlfriend who i got really bored with in bed but i did not want to hurt her feelings which made it really hard for me to come but after we broke up i met someone who really got me going and i could hardly control myself from coming within the first five minutes . SO TALK to him and be daring try something new you might be surprised.

Answer 9

Well, since he can make himself have an orgasim it means there's nothing wrong with him. You may want to check into seeing other forums of foreplay.

I'd also suggest checking out Dr. Ruths site and seeing what she has to offer.

Answer 10

mabye your boyfriend has some health problem. have him go to the doctor. if that is not the case, then sorry to say he might not be interested in you. Also u should be happy he takes long. my man of 5 yrs comes in 3 mintues..