Why all girls seems to runaway from me ? All people say I"m attractive and smart. Am I doing something wrong ?

Question

I always try to respect, and try to make feel a woman as a lady,make them laugh, have a good time. I can talk about all subjects with them, also I think that my cultural level is high. But when I take a look around they are dating whit men that all I can say is, WHAT ? whit that man? look at him. them my conclusion is: I gotta be doing and saying something really stupid to provoke that negative reaction in girls. I"m latin, 31 and had dated really beautiful women before. But after I broke up whit my girl friend a year ago I have no luck to get another relation and my self steem is having a vacation in hell right now. please help me. I don't know what to do and I feel so depress and miserable.

Answer 1

maybe u are basing too much of ALL of this on just *looks*. obviously a woman is not only worthy of you just because she is beautiful. also, if u are only attracted to/attracting women who are negative, closed minded, not very *nice* in general, you are choosing from women who are automatically going to reject you. and then u wonder why they reject you! instead, find ur confidence. for urself, so that u feel like a wonderful Man, who can take care of any situation, and make any Woman happy. then, go out on dates...and don't expect anything. because u know why? the girl for you is Special. she's not Just beautiful..she has more qualities and more things that u want to learn about and explore. therefore, u have to read the signs; and always follow the ones that are Positive. someone who makes You feel wonderful, and that You want to make Her feel wonderful. if u keep following those signs, and discarding the negatives (if a woman rejects you, leave her alone. move on. don't let it hurt ur feelings, just know that she's not right for you. that's wehre the confidence kicks in), u will find urself Surrounded with positive people, and u will have your pick!! :) and because she has these great qualities, hopefully she will be able to keep an open mind and see you for who u are, and what u do for her, and appreciate it. good luck~

Answer 2

Change your focus for awhile...try going in a different direction with your thinking. Keeping busy, and doing something positive for yourself and/or your community will enhance both circumstances. Meaning, your mental state at present which is depressed, and your community is always in need of caring people. Get involved with participating to do your best in volunteering, where you are needed for awhile. You'd be surprised how it will change your out-look. It may even change your view on what type of person you want as a partner in your future. You may have better focus, as time goes by, by helping others. You just never know unless you try. What's to say, you won't make friends along the way in your effort/s to make a difference in someone less fortunate than yourself. That's all I can think of right now...good luck, and thanks for asking.

Answer 3

Have you tried asking some of the girls u dated in the past? I know that honesty can hurt but if you really want to know ask!
I am assuming that you are not full of yourself. There is a difference between self confidence and thinking you are all that! Are you serious about being in a long term relationship? Maybe these girls can see that your relationship will not lead to anything serious now or ever so they split. Just my 2 cents!

Answer 4

all you can do is be yourself and be honest. you mention you have dated really beautiful women. i hope beauty is not what you are ultimately after because that would explain part of the problem. of course you need to be attracted to the woman but i hope you are looking past the outside and are trying to connect on an inner level. also what are your intentions? if you are dating women of your age they may be looking for more than just a good time. they may be looking marriage and a future with someone. bottom line...... be honest, open and clear in what you are looking for. please don't be too hard on yourself. get busy with your own hobbies and interests and when you least expect it, it will happen.

Answer 5

Maybe your approach can sound a little desperate,

Never mention to them your fromer girlfriend,

Check on your breath to see if it is ok,

Let them be the center and focus of you attention. Do not center in yourself only.

Try to be a good listener.

Make her feel special telling her how special she is.

and show that you are not desperate at all, promote yourself as you were the last coke of the dessert even if you don't feel that way.

Women don't like insecure man. They like to feel protected.

Good Luck my latino friend,
Your latina friend

Answer 6

Take a breath. Maybe you are trying to hard. I found my man while signing up for a literary class - my hobby. Try getting a hobby or try something new. I am sure there is someone out there for you.
Good Luck.

Answer 7

well, firstly no offense, but your english isn't that strong. though this doesnt hinder stupid white people, a smart latin guy will probably be thought of as dumb. unless you're talking to spanish speaking people. if so, i can't help you...i can't pick up spanish girls to save my life. i think it has something to do with not being able to dance...

good luck to ya, man. i'm rooting for you!!

Answer 8

Don't feel depressed and miserable. You can't expect people to like you all the time. If you can't find people to like you, you have to keep on looking.

Answer 9

Women are insane. But give it time...the right one will come along. Took me thirty years to find Miss Right.

Answer 10

Geek alert. Prob. your fam. and mom are the ones tell'n you that you're the attractive one, right?