I also have a question recently my husband has taken to sleeping on the couch, about 6 months, he has every excuse in the book not to sleep in bed, we have argued fought etc, he knows it makes me mad, but he continues to do it, should I take it as a sign and let him go??? he is a fireman, so its not every single night he works 4 24 hour shifts a week.
2006-08-23 06:57:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, your marriage is in trouble. Ask him to be honest and to tell you what's going on because you cannot longer pretend that nothing is hapenning.
Best of luck
2006-08-23 07:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go jumping off the deep end just yet! First of all instead of blaming the husband that something is wrong what about you ?
Do you snore at night and he can't get to sleep? Have you been seeing someone while he's at the FD working. Is there been a recent change to your diet and you have become uninteresting to him now?Lets ask the question is he really sleeping on the couch when he gets out there is he on the PC looking at things you would not want him to be. I don't think it really is another person like when would he find the time if he has to be at the F.D. for 24 hrs...Unless she is on the force with him. I think the best way to start this off is be straight up with him and ask him why he is sleeping on the couch..and go from there.Lots of luck don't be so fast to want to end everything
2006-08-23 07:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dean P 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump to a conculsion. It could be anything, maybe he's having trouble sleeping and is frustrated... has he gotten out of shape at all? he might feel uncomfortable... it might be something you did... Could be so many different things, you need to start a conversation with him about it when you're both in a good mood and can have a good talk about it... tell him you promise not to hold it against him but that you really want to know why he doesn't want to sleep in the same bed with you. Then DO NOT get mad at him (unless he's having an affair, though hopefully not) Try to work through whatever the problem is, if it's something you did try to work out that.
Good luck, hope you have him back to snuggle with soon!
2006-08-23 07:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by starsmoak 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a million. is this the 1st time you adult males have ever shared a mattress? How did you no longer comprehend this previously marriage? discover out precisely why he's no longer mushy next to you. that must be my substantial concern. 2. it somewhat is alright to placed on his stuff to mattress. I placed on some shirts of my husband's to mattress on occasion because of the fact they're saggy and delicate. there is not any longer something beside the point approximately it (don't comprehend why you sister thinks this). if your husband would not thoughts, then why do you care what your sister says? be responsive to understanding, save relatives out of you marriage, they only screw it up.
2016-10-02 11:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by goverdhan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know lots of people that live this way, who are in love and have solid marriages. Sometimes one snores or one has trouble sleeping with the other person for one reason or another.
Perhaps because your husband is a fireman, he is so used to sleeping alone and has trouble sleeping with you. Perhaps he is having trouble telling you this - or may not even realize it.
Don't take it personally. Talk to him about it. It's probably nothing.
2006-08-23 08:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sign of trouble. If you have fought over this issue and he still sleeps on the couch, you need to get some marriage counseling.
2006-08-23 07:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by SEXY 818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why he started sleeping on the couch in the first place? It sounds like you guys should get marital help, because there are some deep rooted issues between the two of you. Any way you look at it, it's wrong of him to sleep on the couch, especially if you have no clue why.....
2006-08-23 07:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking him why he wants to sleep on the couch?
He could be feeling very stressed because of his job, and this might be his his way of getting some much needed alone time. If he's good to you in every other way, and offers you an explanation that you can understand...then don't worry.
2006-08-23 07:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's got some personal problems going on.... or it could just be that he doesn't get enough sleep when he's with you... i wouldn't jump to conclusions right now... instead... one night grab a sleeping bag and a pillow, drag it out to the floor and curl up on the living room floor (or wherever the couch is) When he asks you what you're doing, tell him that you love him and you're tired of sleeping apart. If nothing else, at least he might finally tell you why he's insistent on sleeping on the couch...
2006-08-23 07:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong...but it could be a number of different things. Dont argue...talk! communication is the key to a happy marriage and not enough folks are doing it, thus the divorce rate being so high.
Ask him why he is doing it...ask, not argue...talk and find out whats going on in his head. It could be something about you that he doesnt want to sleep with you...or it could be he is getting it elsewhere. Maybe he is just too tired to make it to the bedroom, I dont know...but you should seeing as you are his wife! dont be so quick to point the finger though...cause it could be you.
2006-08-23 07:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by tpoke24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it;s a sign but what you need to find out. Talk to him without arguing to see where his head is. A marriage cannot survive if one spouse is not sleeping with the other especially without good reasons.
2006-08-23 07:22:29 · answer #11 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋