OK, there is this new guy..his name is wally...and i really like him..my heart races when i see him. i have one class with him and his locker is next to mine. we talk sometimes and he smiles at me in the hallway. we meet coincidently sometimes...its weird. i dont think he likes me...yet i think he notices me...but i dont know. well i think about him a lot and i wana forget him..just be his friend b/ im afraid ill get disturbed by him with my studies. should i just forget him and be his friend or should i try just a TINY bit harder?? truthly...please...advice me!! btw...there are some other guys that are cool so...i dont know...you guys tell me pls!!
2006-08-23 06:35:33 · 18 answers · asked by Amy10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hum good question. Tell you what just talk to him some time when you meet get to know him, if you still like him after awhile (when you know him well) just ask him out it might work. Or he might ask you out, who knows. but I would say just be freindly right now and get to know him
2006-08-23 06:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by ry_3906 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phew...hold on sister! Take a deep breath, okay now let it out slowly. There. Feel better? You need to put things into perspective here. He is a guy, just a guy, apparently a cute one, but still, just a guy. And, as you mentioned yourself, he's just one of many cool ones out there.
Good that your studies are important to you because education and good grades is what is going to get you where you want to go in the future. Don't let yourself forget that YOU are your priority and education is important.
It sounds like you have the perfect situation with Wally. You see each other in class, in the hallway, at the locker. He smiles at you, he talks to you. You got this thing licked kiddo. She if you can't get on his team for a class project then invite him to join you in the school library to do research for the project. Be charming but smart, and get the work done. You will be getting to know him and vice versa. Let things happen naturally, you will end up with a long lasting friendship--if you decide he is worth it. It could lead to more but give it time.
I have always found that it was better to be friends with the guy than to date them. The relationship often lasts much, much longer and there isn't all that heartache involved. Besides, more often than not I discovered at some point that even though he once made my heart skip a beat, when my brain got involved it turned out he wasn't really 'all that' after all.
So, relax and let a friendship develop first. It's safe virtually risk free. (btw-You can daydream, or even fantasize, about him if you want, no one can blame you for that and who would know anyway.)
Good luck.
2006-08-23 13:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by wibbsite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like ur still in highschool dunno wat grade tho but if ur in 9,10,or 11 dont bother trying to hard just relax be urself and take what is given to u. If u guys see each other in the hall just take that laugh smile joke around whateva, if he wants to make a move he will and when he does ull know it. If ur in 12 then if u really wanna try harder with him then go ahead cuz its ur senior year and unless u plan on going to the same college as him then u prolly wont see him again. Neways plus its senior year and u have prom and games and all that good stuff that cums to highschool seniors just make sure u do the whole SAT and pik ur college and all so that once the spring semesters *** along ull have plenty of free time for him if it works out, if it doesnt work out then thats ok cuz at least u got the experience and memory to take with u in the future. If ur in middle school then girl go read a book and just smile and talk to him like u normally do.
2006-08-23 13:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lexis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweets, I think you are very mature for your age. So I think you should realize that your studies should be first. Keep up with the school and boys will follow later in life. Get YOUR own life together and be the best at whatever it is that you decide to do and then Men will be following you around all over. Plus... if you consider it for a moment... the chances are SLIM TO NONE that you and this boy will last forever and ever anyways.... Id focus on your studies. Good luck with school
2006-08-23 13:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a very, very similar situation. I figure, my grades are extremely important to me and that guys come and go. I went for the friendship and so far have never looked back. Maybe after you become friends, you can talk more deeply, and maybe it will evolve into something deeper. But whats more important to you: trying to figure out if someone who has noticed you, will ever see you as more than a friend, or your grades which will be important for your future. This decision thou is ultimately up to you. Best of luck!
2006-08-23 13:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by scharfie528 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on your studies, you never get a second chance to fix your GPA. Let another girl have a shot at Wally then you will find out if he was really a hit or a miss. Reputations get around quick in school!
2006-08-23 13:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and tell him. I know a lot of guys like a girl that makes the first move " I know I do" and the worst thing that can happen is that he say? no!. Dont be afraid afraid afraid of regection! you'll never know what could happend if you would of! Good luck!
2006-08-23 13:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by prbigg_boyy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD JUST BE HIS FRIEND FOR NOW. PUT UR FEELINGS BEHIDE U FOR NOW AND JUST BE HIS FRIEND THEN IF HE SEEMS INTEREST THEN TALK TO HIM BUT U SAID THAT HES NEW RIGHT WELL JUST GIVE HIM TIME TO ADJUST TO THE SCHOOL BEFOR EVERY ONE STARTS HITTIN ON HIM JUST MAKE HIM FEEL COMFY. AT THAT SCHOOL. CUZ U NEVER KNOW HE MIGHT HAVE A GF. SO JUST GIVE IT TIME. K
2006-08-23 13:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by slick_chik316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Us guys are dumb and often we won't make a move for fear of rejection. If you are cute, I am sure he will want to hang out or whatever with you. Just casually ask him to hang out after school.
2006-08-23 13:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by bigjohny8x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a play or you will never know! he may be scared and if you encourage him he may feel more at ease. some guys are looking for a sign that "i am NOT crazy, she really IS interested in ME"
2006-08-23 13:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by s j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋