need to kill myself i love my fiancee so much i cant stop thinking about him at night sometimes i drive to his house and just sit outside looking at his window ( the other night he was making love to my friend and i saw their shadows) life is not worth living anymore
2006-08-23 06:35:06 · 30 answers · asked by sad bride 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i mean my ex fiancee
2006-08-23 06:39:37 · update #1
You are a STALKER! Get some respect for yourself. And move on!
2006-08-23 06:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You poor thing! I am so sorry for what you are going though!! I know at this stage of the game it's hard to think that you will ever get through this but I promise that you will. Believe it or not your ex actually did you a huge favor by bailing out on you....just think what your life would be like had he gone through with the wedding!! One thing that I really want you to realize is that you are a wonderful person who deserves to have a man that will love you for the great person that you are. They are out there..I know..after many years of being with a man that used to make me feel like I was worthless, I found a man that let's me know on a daily basis how much he loves me. In order to get to the point in your life where you will trust a man again you need to do lots of soul searching and possibly see a therapist who will help you let go of the past. Life is painful especially when this bullsh**t is in your face but believe me IT will stop hurting one day.
Please seek help and understand that you are a valuable person who deserves the best of what life can offer!!! God bless you.
2006-08-23 07:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by oneontaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First-is he still your fiance, if so dump him quickly.
Second - no friend would sleep with your fiance or even an ex-fiance, so dump her quickly also
I don't believe that you are a stalker. I do believe that you need some help. When you build your life around your one and only you forget yourself in the process. Get some counseling, call a friend and vent and cry for hours if you need to. I know that it is very hard right now going through this. But above all do not kill yourself, you have been burnt by love. It happens to all of us. You need to move on. I know its easier said than done but things will get better.
2006-08-23 06:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by carriemehome25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sorry to hear that>_<. But sorry nothing i say here will make you feel better, because u know u deserve more than that, but your heart is irracional right now, totaly in love and hurt. Please dont close yourself in your room, tell ur family or closed ones you are having some huge problems and stick around ppl that really cares about you, ask them to hang out with you, and drag you out no matter what u say (coz u wont want to do anything), try to keep yourself busy and see other things in your life, try to find yourself again, and see how wonderful of a person you are and fall in love with yourself, then for sure you will be able to let him go.
Most ppl that suicides do so thinking that noone cares about them, and i feel you, but trust me, you will be surprised on how many ppl you would hurt by doing so including yourself. cheer up!!
Best wishes.
2006-08-23 07:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by Evangelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ingore what mean people say to you.. really, you need to move on and find someone that better than him... you don't need to kill yourself over him? because why? You lose and he win... It better if you do what you always want to do in life and do it and show him you are far worth than yoru friend... but again might not work out.. really killing yourself not going to solve anything it will be unsolve......
I do have respect for you and you should never feel like this and there are man out there looking for what you looking for too smiling. wish you luck.
again, glad you didn't married him.. becasue if you did... in 2 or 5 years later he will be cheating on you... and you will say this "WHY DID I MARRIED HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE" that how it might happen. so again be glad nothing happen. it happen before you got married.
2006-08-23 07:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay any attention to the people that are being mean to you. and you do not need to kill yourself, not for any reason. and she is probably not your friend if she was making love to your ex, exspecially if she knew. if he is worth it then go and have a talk with him. why were you two split up in the first place if you love him so much. and if it was a bad reason the just move on. you will get passed it. but like i said if you love him that much then don't let him get away. go and talk to him. and you need to decide wheter she is really your friend or not. i mean she is sleeping with your ex.
2006-08-23 06:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I really feel bad for you but the only thing that can make this better is time. And don't ever take him back. It is a long process that you need to get through one day at a time. Stop watching for what he is doing...cause you are only hurting yourself more. You will never be able to heal if you don't move forward. Good luck.
You are not a stalker...just someone who got real hurt.
2006-08-23 06:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by e_deckwa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow well i am not going to be mean or anything but yest forget about him i now is going to be really hard but he is not worth it okay. Ask god to help you life is a blessing we have and don't and i mean don't kill yourself over this okay let God change your life you deserve someone better. There is a special someone for you out there but you need to be patient and wait wait the right moment will come okay. Well i wish you the best in life and i will be praying for you God Bless You......... i am nobody to be judging you or being mean to you i just wanted you to now that.
2006-08-23 06:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by SunFlower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it’s not the end of the world. You need to move one, it’s easy to say I know, but you need to move on. Everything happens for a reason. You shouldn’t be afraid of letting go because meaning he’s not the right one. He (your true love) is out there; the one who you supposed to spend your whole life with. In time you guys will meet, but for now, deal with the pain. Don’t go to your ex fiancée place anymore because your not hurting anybody, but yourselves. Do yourself a favor, love your self otherwise no one will.
I know this easy to say and very hard to do, but look at it this way, no one says life wouldn’t be difficult in a first place. After all these storms, you will find true happiness. But for now, learn from your experience and move on. Be glad that he’s gone!
--BE STRONG!!!!!!! and always remember this... YOU ARE WAY WAY BETTER THAN THESE PEOPLE....
2006-08-23 06:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your going through such a rough time in your life. Your situation is heartbreaking....I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
What your doing isn't healthy....you need some "alone" time to rediscover yourself. Plan your future.....make changes in your life. It's like opening a new chapter to a book. Come out being the new and improve "you". Good luck.
2006-08-23 06:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are not being mean to you. You've asked this question over and over. What do you want us to say. I've read some of the answers and they are decent advice.
You have to expect some rude answers onthis board. Its just the way people are.
You really need to stop what you are doing though and work on getting over him,
2006-08-23 06:47:35 · answer #11 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋