Okay i left high school 7 years ago and haven't spoke with this one friend in about 4 yrs.She gave my mother her phone nomber so I can call her.Well i never really liked her in high school and after I just hung out with her twice.I mean i hung out with her b/c i was bored.Why do ppl from high school years later after not calling or cantact w/ them do they still think I want to be friends?It has happened w/ more than one person.Why do they keep contact when i have made no effort?
2006-08-23 06:34:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Because they are trying to bring back memories of high school and have a hard time letting go of the past. Also, the more you resist them the harder they try. You have obviously moved on but for one reason or another they can't. Be honest with them.
2006-08-23 06:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they realize how you were treated and want to make up for it. Maybe they secretly thought you were fun in high school, but their friends didn't like you and so they felt pressured to pretend not to like you either. Some people have a hard time growing up and getting on with life, maybe that is why some of these people call you - to try to feel like everything is just like high school.
I say give everybody a chance. Once you feel like you have really gotten to know them, and if you don't like the person, don't see them anymore. If the person keeps calling and asking you to do things, be polite but explain that you were glad to get in touch after so many years, but feel that you just don't have much in common any longer. Explain that you are happy they are doing well, that you wish them happiness, but you just don't feel like you really connect with them enough to remain close friends. Yeah, it will take guts, and Yeah it might hurt their feelings, but wouldn't you rather have somebody tell the truth than just dissappear and you don't know why?
2006-08-23 06:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they realized that they wanted to change . just try to work it out. it might turn out for the better. in high school they might have had a click or something and had always liked you but couldn't cuz then they'd be booted or something. so they probably realized that if they don't have the friends they used to have , maybe the people they didn't hang out with are actual true friends.
2006-08-23 09:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by horsegal08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you make an effort and get to know her. you may have a good friendship. the reason she probably wants to keep contact is becuz you are a familiar face and a lot of pople like to have those around.
2006-08-23 06:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Shea Butta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are bored, lonely, or both. people just think that meeting up with someone they never really talked to will entertain them.
2006-08-23 06:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by buzzmeyellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she thought you were nice.
if you don't like her, don't call her.
2006-08-23 06:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by WxEtte 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
idk, maybe they thought you were their friend and missed the friendship. idk, but whatever the reason I would try again to be their friend becuz maybe they changed over time...good luck
2006-08-23 06:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by sweetthang93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋