We got married 2 months ago and I am already tired, feel empty, misunderstood, alone. We are arguing about everything. I cry almost everyday. He tells me I act like a kid. He is new to US and trying to find a job, friends. And he blames me for everything I guess. If he is on a bad mood he treets me terrible. He emails his friend back home and doesn't even tell about me that he got married. So yesteday I emailed to his 2 friends (girls) istead of him telling that he is married and lives with his wife. I guess now he is mad at me. I tried to talk but he ignores the problems
2006-08-23 06:30:44 · 12 answers · asked by sophie12780 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
divorce him and ship his butt back his counrty!!!!the hell with that... don't let anyone treat you like that,.. plus it sound slike he might of used you for a visa or something like that.. LEAVEHIM!!!
2006-08-23 06:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of concentrating all your energy on fixing him and your marriage, I would concentrate on yourself. Get a new hobby, call some friends, go shopping - whatever - just do anythign to make yourself feel better.
Get your own busy life and ignore him for awhile, and I bet he comes running after you. If he doesn't, he's not inlove with you and THEN I would consider a divorce.
What you have become is "old faithful". He's in a state of mind that he can do whatever he wants and you will stick around no matter what. Negative attention is still attention. He knows you aren't going anywhere.
So my advice is to change the pattern. Do your own thing for awhile and stop obsessing about him. Get some perspective and get it AWAY from him.
2006-08-23 14:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by hannahbean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a baby. If you stay, be sure you don't get pregnant -- there is nothing worse than being a single mom, except being a black single mom....You didn't ask what I'd do, but I'll tell you anyway -- stop wasting your time, and get a divorce. You have little in the way of time invested in this marriage, and you are already incompatable. It won't get better.... Good luck, hon.
2006-08-23 13:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he just using you to stay in the states? Did he marry you to get a green card? You have to ask yourself some serious questions. If you are already unhappy and it has only been 2 months you need to do something about it.
2006-08-23 13:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by auzzimama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough information. Did he marry you to get to stay in America?
From what Country does he come? Different societies feel differently about women and treat them so.
You're probably in a world of kaka now and you'd serve yourself by getting out.
2006-08-23 13:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by aviator147 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really to understand US are different than his home.... and he really try to get green card from you so when he leave you then he will bring other wife to american. Really should end it and tell him that he need to treat you nice or will report to US that you only married me for green card to come to american. and tell him that he need to grow up and if not then end it right there. You don't need to keep on going next months.. because he stupid and don't know how to treat woman better in usa,,, this not his country to treat his own woman he shoudl find other woman at his own country.
that make me mad when he does that .....
2006-08-23 14:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion: get an annulment. You made a mistake. If he's so hung up on his lady friends, then let him go, get the annulment. You will eventually find someone else that will truly treat you the way a 'Queen-Wife' should be treated. :)
2006-08-23 13:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard work. If you are not ready to do the work to maintain the marriage, get out now before you have a child to dump all your insecurities on.
2006-08-23 13:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by TLBFH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u marry ian nsecure guy in the first place!!
Now putting in that past..
Drop this guy now,, and before u have any kids from him..
See your lawyer for this..
2006-08-23 13:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by qwerty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not telling others (girls) that he is married then he must be hiding something. You just need to figure out what it is!!
2006-08-23 13:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by tburton1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋