Well 1 year was just yesterday. I spend $50-75 and went all over get his gift. He just treated me to dinner and appoligied for not finding anything to get me yet. Looked one place last minute for flowers. Also he said I would have to wait til Saturday. I acted sad ,but did not want to start an arguement on this special day.It acted like 1 year was a big deal to him cuase he never had that long of reltionships and ours was going good. What would you do if you were in this situation? actions? words?
2006-08-23 06:28:32 · 22 answers · asked by vhneu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well he knew it was coming up. He talked about it while I was away on vacation at my parents acouple days before. He knew what day it was and we were doing something that day. He even called me on 12:01am that day to tell me happy annivarsay. I just don't understand. Why act like it is a big deal before that date then do nothing the special day?
2006-08-23 06:35:23 · update #1
I am not normally a materialtist person. But on special occations we exchange gifts like normal relationships. thank you!
2006-08-23 06:37:05 · update #2
Did not get me flowers beacuse that ones store did not help ti help and he did nto see any he wanted to get. I happy we are together. He wanted his gift so I gave it to him and he loved it.
2006-08-23 06:42:25 · update #3
you should be lucky he remembered
2006-08-23 06:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by walstib_710 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
id make sure that its clear why he didnt do it. If he didnt have the money, he should have planned, but thats a forgiveable thing.
but if he straight up forgot, which happens a lot, its not forgivable.
i would ask him if you two could talk, and start up by explaining how the anniversary was very special for you, and you feel like he didnt plan and remember it.
then explain how you were hurt and if he reacts like a jerk, break up with him. he should not act immature when approached with something he did wrong.
i would not act bitchy or mean, just be honest and very calm.
you should not tell him what to get you, or babysit and remind him. hes a big boy. and youre not a gold digger, youre a girl. you like special surprises and presents because it shows that hes still into impressing you and making you feel special.
if he doesnt have the money, then its ok, he can show you in other ways.
but lets be honest. he should have thought about it and gotten you something.
2006-08-23 13:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evaluate what's more important. Your anniversary or your entire relationship. He took you out to dinner. Give him a chance to surprise you with flowers or a gift on Saturday. My husband is a dispatcher for an ambulance service and usually has to work all of the holidays and anniversaries. We rarely celebrate things on the day you're supposed to. Being with him is more important that what he buys me. Also, men need to know (not be hinted to) on what to do in these types of situations. Because of our budget, for my birthday, I told my husband to get me a small bouquet of flowers (not roses, too expensive) and a nice card, nothing else. He liked not having to guess and knew I would be happy.
2006-08-23 13:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you should do about this specifically. It is however an indication that maybe he isn't as excited about being with you as he should be. Give him some more time, and if it seems that your dates have become routing and he's lost all sense of romance then maybe you should get rid of him. At that point, the only reason for him to be with you is because he prefers having a girl around than being alone with other guys.
2006-08-23 13:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think some guys just don't realize the importance of "gifts." I have been with my guy for 6 years, and he has never really bought me a gift, just taken me out to dinner. I usually get mad about it, but I know he loves me.....must just be a gene they're missing. You should definitely tell him that the thought (gifts) means a lot to you and see what happens next time.
2006-08-23 13:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by alwaysright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably have something romantic and special for you that's why he told you to wait until Saturday, and the dinner was just the beginning. Be patient; at least he remembered the anniversary.
2006-08-23 13:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by karma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least he took you out to dinner and got you flower's.
He didn't forget right? . Give the guy some credit for that one.
Maybe he's just trying to find that perfect gift,
instead of rushing into it and buying you something cheap
Give him time, hint him on what you like.
Hope you get something nice. : )
2006-08-23 13:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter whether or not he bought you something? Gifts should never be thought of symbols of love, especially gifts given on premediated holidays. The way he treats you should always be more than enough.
2006-08-23 13:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by cam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He feels bad ... Atleast he took you out, and is putting forth effort... My bf is bad to buy me gifts.. I would have to go w/ him or tell him what I want... S, don't feel bad... The best way to celebrate an anniversary is to just spend time together. GIfts, Atleast to me, aren't much.. as long as he's there... that's what matters
2006-08-23 13:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appoligied= no known definition
you need to kick him to the curb!! and you should do it on a talk show such as jerry springer or oprah. take it all the way, he needs to be humiliated on national television, better yet challenge him to a spelling bee
2006-08-23 13:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient, like you said, a relationship this long is new to him. Keep making each milestone a special event and he will catch on.
2006-08-23 13:32:20 · answer #11 · answered by Yote' 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋