It seems to me that those who came out at a very young age sometimes have a complete disdain for people in the closet or those who are coming out, slowly later on in life. Isn't it wonderful, on the other hand, that we do have such wonderful GLBT people who support us, do not belittle us, and do not call us names?
2006-08-23 06:24:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm never disrespectful, because I know how it felt when I was in denial and how hard it was for me. I just couldn't lie anymore, but I can't knock anyone else who hasn't come out yet, because I understand that fear, I know how it feels. I can only show support for others who have not found the courage to be themselves yet. I'm thankful I was able to find it when I needed it most.
If you're not out yet, don't let anyone force you to come out, you do it in your own time. If I'm dating someone, I try to make a point of dating a woman who is already out, so that there is nothing to hide, but if I find someone who isn't, I'm willing to be patient until she's ready.
2006-08-23 06:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't disrespect someone *just* for coming out at an older age, *ever*. People do things on their own timetable, for their own reasons. But I've been out all my adult life, from age 17, and have loved another woman from age 18, and sometimes I get older women who've only been out for five years telling me I'm ignorant (usually because of my libertarian politics) or there's something wrong with me for being bisexual. That's when I get mad, and perhaps address the fact that they haven't been out as long as I have.
2006-08-23 13:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much that we disrespect you, it's more that I chose to at a young age and know the benefits of doing so. I can't imagine my life hidden, and I hate to see ANYONE doing that with their lives. I strongly believe that doing so at a young age is going to benefit the entire gay community, so that, one day, in the far future, "coming out" will not be such a huge, life altering, keep you up at night thing.
2006-08-23 13:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by buldawg 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really admire people who come out of the closet, it takes so much courage to do. It must just as hard to do when you're an adult!! And I seriously pity the guys who are married and then realize they're gay and have to come out of the closet!! It takes real courage to do that, it makes me respect people, not disrespect them becauseI understand how hard it can be!
2006-08-23 16:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Adam G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came out when I was 13, for a simple reason that I have to. It's my life. And for those people who are late boomers or who are in the closet, that's their choice. And I totally respect that. I have no problem with them at all.
2006-08-23 15:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Beckham613 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came out at 14 -- that was a long time ago. I have friends my age (late 30s) now coming out. I love them, they are my friends -- but respect them? Sorry, I must honestly say that I agree with the young ones, though I would never mistreat someone.
Regards,
Reyn
2006-08-23 20:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it annoying when the very young come out. You see kids on here announcing their sexuality at 13 and 14, which frankly I find hard to believe. I was nowhere near self-aware enough at 13 to understand what was going on with me. I don't want to make a sweeping statement that everyone who does that is just going through a phase, but it always makes me wonder.
2006-08-23 13:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes I do. I completely understand.
My family hates gay people. They think being gay is a choice, and that it's an abomination to God. Do you think I want to tell my family I'm gay when they feel like that? No I don't. If they don't ask then I'm not going to say a word. If they already know then we don't talk about it. I'd rather leave it at that.
2006-08-23 13:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Q~T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it isn't always that way but occasionally it is...
I believe it is because some of them are too young to remember is it wasn't "just words" you were hit with way back when and depending on where you were, if you reported being beaten up you got "You were asking for it" as a reply from the police.
2006-08-23 15:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes....sometimes I do. I have found ALOT of disrespect in people telling me I am lying, decieving etc....How can I be doing that when I didn't know??? I didn't realize???? I felt like I COULDN"T accept it because it was NOT okay to be gay.
2006-08-23 18:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋