If you could live your life back again, what could you change about your it?

Question

Hi again!

If you could be given the chance of living your life again, what could you change about your life in the most helpful way?

When we are young we don't think about the future and what the destiny might bring for us. Today, I stop and think for a split second and realized that if I could go back I would make more mistakes to learn from them but would that be helpful at all?

I talk to people at times and they say that in life there is no right or wrong, that you are what you are because of the mistakes you made and influences you had.... but if we belive in this, would our lifves be better, satisfied, content?

It is hard to get older and realized that you have made really bad choices in your life. There is no way we can go back and change anything but if we could would it make any difference? you would not know for sure... would you?

Take care!

Also,
What things you would do and what would be the things you wouldn't do?

Answer 1

i would have purchased my textbooks online and saved a lot of money by doing so, for my first three years of college I spent way too much on books, I am in my last year and found Textbook411.com and have saved a ton, I wish I knew about it sooner........... I also would have asked out my high school crush... ;-(

Answer 2

Nobody will ever get to do that, so it's kind of a pointless question. Though people do regret the choices they've made. The best way to handle poor choices is to analyze them to determine why it was a poor choice, why you made it, and what you plan to do differently in the future. But even the poor choices in your life trigger cause and effect that lead to the present, which has many wonderful aspects to it. If you changed anything about your past, you would likely go down a different road and some of these wonderful things wouldn't happen. For example, I made a terrible mistake in my first marriage, but I now have two wonderful sons. Or I chose the wrong major in college...but my profession was a crucial factor in meeting my current spouse, whom I love. You can't change the past, but you wouldn't want to if you could. But you can learn from it.

Answer 3

There is one guy I would not have dated. And one thing I would not have said to my father.

Changing those two things would make a huge difference in my life. They are turning points that, even though its been many years, I still think about nearly every day.

But, if I took away those things, maybe my present situation wouldn't be what it is, and in a lot of ways that would be sad. Luckily, usually there are second chances during life, and some kind of amends can be made for mistakes.

Answer 4

I wouldn't change a single thing. I always think that no matter how bad things can seem at times, they could always be worse. So I stay faithful to the devil I know, and stay well away from the devil I don't.

And as an aside?

Nancy K - You just impressed me very deeply indeed! Sincerely. It takes a truly Strong person to make comments like that.

Absolute respect to you.

I would have done this by e-mail but that wasn't an option, so I'll get all embarrassing and stuff in public :o)))

Answer 5

I could think of things I would change in the past that would make my life easier... but easier is not necessarily better. All those painful things happen for a reason.

The one thing I would go back and change is this: to sign a marital agreement before getting married, this way my husband wouldn't be trying to get money from me now and I wouldn't be feeling that I married a loser; and all the beauty that we lived wouldn't be fading away because of his greed.

But hey, even from that I am learning something that will make me a wiser or stronger person in the end.

Answer 6

If I could go back and change anything about my life it would be the actions of 2000. I would not have let my ex-husband dupe me into taking my son for that summer. He said he wanted to spend time with our boy and get to know him better. Said it would only be for the summer. I agreed because I always wanted him to be a part of our sons life. He lied to me though. He took my son to live with him permanetly. Then tells me last year that my son would not live with me again until he is 18. I have not seen my son in 2 1/2 years and I haven't spoken to him since Sept. 2005. I don't know if he's dead or alive. But I was never the kind to keep my boy from his dad. That would have been unhealthy. Now, I'm paying the price. I pray everyday just to hear my son's voice.

So, when you asked, us "You would not know for sure?, well, yeah I know for very sure, that, that's what I would have changed.

Take care to you too!

Answer 7

I wouldn't have divorced my
first husband.
It all goes downhill after that.
I was young and very attractive
(I can say that now that I am old)
but I wasn't really aware of it,
I just knew that it seemed that
I was tied down to a man who
didn't appreciate me.

That was the selfish part - it was
I who did not appreciate him or
consider him to be my life partner.
He was fine, and we could have
been a successfully happy couple
if I hadn't been so stupid.

After all these years I finally got
the chance to apologize to him
for making him so miserable when
I left him and took our child to live
in another state. We both felt
better after that.

The one to really lose,
the one who suffered the most,
was our daughter who was
just barely three when I left.
I wish I could make people
listen now when I try to tell
them to put thought into whom
you marry and to work hard
to make it last. I also tell
them not to have children
until they know it is a stable
relationship. A baby is not
a new puppy.
It is something that will be
your responsibility for at
LEAST 18 years. I think
most kids today would rather
not have been born, than to
be thrown into the mess they
are supposed to feel is their family.

Answer 8

I'm still young. I'm only 15. I wouldn't change anything that happened so far in my life. If some of the things that happened in my life didn't happen, I wouldn't be the same person I am today and I happen to like who I am. I learned from my mistakes and from the bad things that have happened to me so I wouldn't want to go back and change that. I like my life now and I think that if I were to change something it would altar my entire life and I wouldn't want that.

Answer 9

Given a chance,when realising towards the end of life-I would not go behind wealth,fame and fortune.And instead strived to find a true saint who could guide one away from these worldly pleasures.This way been away from the cycle of life and death-because human birth is very precious-once in 84 lac births

Answer 10

I would have changed everything!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not that I am not okay now, but...I really messed up a lot of good things when I was younger, thinking I knew it all, when i didn't. If I knew then what I know now...sigh....

Nancy? You did the right thing.because parents who don't love each other dearly, end up with children who don't know how to love dearly either. Stop beating yourself up. You took her with you? that is probably what she needed the most. Her Mommy. Not an unhappy Mommy! ((((Sheri)))

Answer 11

I wouldnt change a thing. Your mistakes make you the person you are. If you dont love yourself as you are because of those choices then make changes in your current life. Dont make the same mistake twice becaue you are looking to far into the past to see that you are letting it repeat itself.