I have a friend who has a baby she 16 and her boy/baby daddy left her he is 17what should she do about it.?

Question

when she told him?

Answer 1

whatt can she do??? she cant force the father to be a part of a childs life. she has to do the best she can for her child and show the baby ALOT of luv. she has to be the mom and the dad......sadly i have to say that these things happen, im 16 and pregnant with twins and i was nervous tellin the father he was scared to but he knew he had to take care of his responsibility, plus im tuff and if he ever would try to walk away from my babies i would ruff him up so bad.....but of course juss tell her she needs to live for her and her baby and show that baby love.

Answer 2

Well, all these answers, are pretty good, but the whole "she should keep her legs closed next time" how does that help now!

"Your Friend " has to go from 16 to 25 over night! It wil be hard, and a little depressing at times, but can happen. (speaking from experiance!)

I do agree with the court for child support! YES, Then everything is on paper, AND if he doesnt pay it, they can garnish any monies he would make if he has or gets a job. The sooner the better.

Remember it's not this babys fault he/she is being born, and he/she deserves a mother, & father. I dont mean to go find someone to be the baby's father, BUT if the baby's father wants to be part of his/her life, be adult enough to make that work (FOR THE BABY)
Hang in there, some days "she" will feel like nothing will ever be right again, but it will!

STAY STRONG!

Answer 3

There is not much she can do about it. If he does not want to continue the relationship. This may be a boy who is girl hopping and going to end up with a baby from each girl friend he has. Serial fathering. He needs to pay some sort of child support.

She needs to contact social services if she has not already. She can have some one talk to the boy friend and tell him its his responsibility to see that this child he fathered is taken care of. I hope she has a lot of support from her friends and parents. She should try to go back to school so she can go to college and learn how to support her self. If she hooks up with another boy friend she needs to think twice about having another baby. Get some birth control. I have a friend that started out at 16 having babies and could never keep her men. She has 5 children all with different fathers. Something is wrong there. Her children are always in trouble because of lack of supervision and lack of a dad.

Answer 4

Well,hun If he left her when she told him,then he is very immature.He is not old enough or mature enough to stand up for what he concieved.He isnt responsible at all,which is how she more than likely ended up with a child that young.She really need to go and have a paternity test done.I am not saying he isnt the father,because i do not know him however,when she sues him for childsupport (which she is entitled to and NEEDS to do) he will say that this child isnt his,because he doesnt want to pay and they can whip out the paternity test,and BAM! she will get the money to help provide for her child.In the mean time,i think she should consider getting a job even if its hard it has to be done she needs to be able to support her and her baby.Even if her parents are helping she should help herself too.Sure,its ok to ask for help from parents,and its ok for them to help your financially,emotionally,etc but she also needs to be responsible for her own actions.Now,he wont go to jail or anything because he isnt an adult,so there is no excuse why she shouldnt tell her parents and have them be there for her emotionally through this whole battle with child support and such.She has 18 years of this so i think she should get the help now while shes young,and she will continue getting the support money until that child is 18 years old.She should also seek help from a local WIC office in her area.They help purchasing food peanut butter,milk,cheese,eggs,etc.When the baby is old enough to eat solid foods as well as it helps provide formula while it is still an infant.She can also get help from welfare,they can help her with medical care for her child as well as a little money to help along.Also,i would suggest that at that young age she get put on birth control because she isnt ready for two babies by the time she graduates highschool.Remember birth control pills arent 100% effective and dont prevent the contraction of std's.Good luck to your friend!

Answer 5

Taking him to court for child support is only good if he has a job. At 17, especially if he's still in high school, you won't get much (if any). Depending where you live, some court systems will force him to get a job.. but at his age, he'll be making minimum wage. His parents could possibly be of help, since he's still a minor. Otherwise, tell your friend to be prepared to possibly have to take care of that child on her own. You being her friend, it would help if you gave her as much support as you can without making the burden of her child, be yours. Check with your local Dept. of Health & Human Services (I guess most states have one). There are plenty of gov't sponsored programs where your friend can get help. Check with the court system first to make sure she gets her money for the baby, if she can.

Answer 6

She needs to have faith in herself that she can do it on her own. That little boy obviously deserves a better father than that! She should just focus on being a good mother to her son and give that baby everything that she can without that piece of ****!

I am 20 years old and have a 5 month old daughter! I am also a single mom. Her father also wants nothing to do with her and I also know that she deserves better than that! I am actually in the process of getting his rights terminated! I will proudly do this by myself and find her a father figure who she can love and look up to. I would rather her have no father at all than constantly be lied to and disappointed! Just have faith in yourself and enjoy every moment you have with your son!

Have a good day!

Answer 7

If she is only 16 then I would advise her first of all to talk to her parents and ask them for help with raising the baby. Meaning help her financially and with babysitting while she attends school and gets her education.
That is going to be a major key in her being able to support this child in the future without the help of welfare.
Then she needs to get a court order for a paternity test to prove that he is the father so that he has to pay child support for his child.
She can get that done without charge usually by going to the welfare dept and asking for TANF or AFDC whatever they call it in your state.
You sign a waiver stating that the state can go after the father for child support and then they will help you from there plus it helps out the mother with care for her child.
They will help pay for babysitting, formula, medical assistance and everything else while she is still in school and even if she isn't.
She also needs to sign up for WIC which will help with formula and baby food, cereal and such.

But the main thing is for her to stay in school/go back to school and continue her education so she can support her child in the future without depending on welfare. She can be self sufficient and get a job that will pay enough to support her child.

Answer 8

Maybe these teenager girls need have more self respect for themselves. No wonder he left he is just a kid himself. Maybe these girls need to be taught to concentrate on school not boys and sex. Now she is left to pick up the bag. You should have goals, self esteem, and aspire to more then just a bunch of loser boys. Now her life is ruined and the baby has to pick up the tab. How cute! So selfish!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

She should probably consider her options...don't think child support is the first thing on her mind right now....guys can sometimes change their minds down the road he is young...and remember, girls have more attachment to a baby from the beginning...guys only have words...no symptoms...no proof or connection to the child. She should consider her options for herself and her child....and leave him out of the picture until he comes around himself....adoption is always an option.

Answer 10

you're probably the friend aren't you?? you know you are
Id tell you to keep your legs shut, so you dont end up like a whore (which you probably are already), I'd also tell you to take his skank *** to court to get child support, I'd punch him in the face for neglecting his duties as a father and then tell him to keep it sipped up if he doesn't want another baby.
He and all the other dad that end up not helping out, are a disgrace to all humankind, not to mention all the sluts and whores out there who dont know who their baby's daddies are..

its terrible