my boyfriend cheated on me with another girl for 3 weeks and he said they had sex 6 times he claim it was nothing he said he would not do it again but i just cant seems to get it out my mind am not eating and i cant sleep all i keep thinkin about what he did i give him a next chance but i cant get over it i love him very much i cant lie it hurt me alot i cant really talk to no one like that about it because i dont want no one to talk behind my back i give him a next chance because in the past while we were in school i did some things to and he forgive me so he told me he made a misstake so i forgive him but every time he touches me i cant help but to see him touchin some one else am try to make things work but when he goes way i cant help thinkin thats were he is can some one please help me get thur this
2006-08-23 06:07:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are kind to give him a second chance...
But 3 weeks and 6 times? Cmon', did he forget about your feelings during that time?
Seems like he got off the hook easy...
2006-08-23 06:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have to give the guy some credit, the fact that he told you. However when you mention that in the past you did something you had to confess to him, probally he didn't do anything and was waiting for a change to get back at you. The fact that he even told you he had sex with her 6-times, hey when a guy cheats and tells you about it, he really does'nt get into that kind of details, so it makes be think he was over-reacting on giving you so much details on even how many times he had sex with her. On the other hand, true or not, he told you and he forgave you and you forgive him. But if this happens again, "NO MERCY", leave him. Once is enough unless you like being hurt. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-23 06:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by ladydi9red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is my opinion that while men can change, they usually don't do it for the same person they've already hurt.
he probably loves you very much, and i'm sure you love him, but forgiving him tells him you accept this kind of behavior and that he can do it again--at least this is my experience.
My ex cheated on me, then again, then again. I guess it just came down to him loving me, but not enough to only love me. He has a new girlfriend now, and I don't think he would ever cheat on her, because he loves her that much.
They change, but if he didn't love you enough to not do it in the first place, then he isn't going to love you enough in the future.
Sorry if it sounds harsh, but it is my experience and that of many of my best friends...
2006-08-23 06:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Honey Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're both cheated, so there is no innocent one, right? Give him the boot, break up with him, tell him to "Hit the road, Jack." If absence makes the heart grow fonder - and I'm talking a minimum of three months of absence - then you'll have proved it. If not, move on.
2006-08-23 06:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never trust him again. Move on. There are plenty if fish in the sea. Catch one that will treat you right. But you have to be good to him too. Trust is a two way street.
2006-08-23 06:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by bsmart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
giving him a chance... another mistake gurl.... when a guy cheat on you once, i'LL GUARANTEE YOU, He'll do it again... come to think of it,he told you he loves you but when he had sex with that gurl (take note, not just once but 6x)... did he ever think of his love for you, how much will it hurt you, your trust to him? maybe it cross to his mind but he choose to do it still.... he's not worth your love! he forgive you, you forgive him....true love doesn't expect something in return.... & if a guy really loves you, he'll not gonna do a single thing to hurt you even if he knows he can... you're not married yet & he already cheat on you, what more wen you get married... i know it hurts gurl but he's not worth all the tears & heartches....
2006-08-23 06:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by samz_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sex 1 time = ok it's a mistake
not 6 times
2006-08-23 06:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Centered 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once that trust has been breached, theres no going back, youre fool for taking him back and the only thing to do now is leave him. becasue its never going to get better, youre ALWAYS going to question him and never 100% trust him ever again.
2006-08-23 06:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my answer is to let him go if he cheats once he'll cheat again no matter what. Its like temptation for him most likely. Don't try to be the guilty one he's at fault no matter what
2006-08-23 06:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by laroya05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give urself some time if u really wanna forgive him n make things up..if u still can't take it the best is for u to move on..
2006-08-23 06:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by devangel1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋