I haven't seen my college friend, "T", in about 5 years. We met and went shopping together this past weekend. When we were in a cafeteria, the server asked if she needed her meal to be kosher or not (but she didn't ask me).
My friend asked the lady why she offered her the meal, and she said "Oh, I'm sorry, I thought you looked Jewish." My friend totally overreacted, and was really really insulted that this server thought she was Jewish (or "looked Jewish").
I just happen to have reddish hair and green eyes, and my friend has darker features.
She talked all the way home about how she was singled out by this server and I wasn't. She even talked about dyeing her hair blonde. Basically I gleaned that she equated someone calling you Jewish with "ugly" and "fat," "cross eyed", and other anti semitic garbage.
I never knew this side of her. I'm really shocked. She used to be a great friend, but I guess she has changed. Should I work on the friendship or stay away from her?
2006-08-23 05:54:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
i would tell u to stay away from her bec she will get in to trouble and drag u in aswell
hopefully this anger will leave once she matures,
2006-08-23 06:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by yakov f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm with ElOsoBravo; i imagine might want to no longer be that sizable of a deal. that is advisable to discuss the project which includes her, even with the undeniable fact that. tell her you fairly desire she don't have any unfavourable thoughts in direction of Jewish (or different communities of) human beings. The server must have both requested you both or requested neither of you. I used to artwork in retail in an section the position there have been many Spanish speaking human beings, or maybe with the undeniable fact that I knew a thanks to talk Spanish, it would want to were incorrect and likely offensive for me to anticipate that folk spoke Spanish because of their actual visual attraction. as far as her wanting to dye her hair blonde, that does supply the impression that she would not want human beings to imagine she seems Jewish. From what you reported, it really is perplexing to inform no matter if she basically would not like being mistaken for something she's no longer, or if she thinks Jewish absolutely everyone is inferior. now to not prepare that she would not seem to carry close any Jewish those who're blonde...
2016-11-27 00:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the one with the problem...why make it yours.??? You haven't seen this person in 5 years, doesn't sound like something you are going to have to deal with anyway...why make an issue of it. IF you are so concerned, ask her outright...are you antisemetic? Good luck
2006-08-23 06:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be mad if i was her too, jewish girls are NOT know for being good looking, just because your friend has a different opinion of people then you do doesn't mean you should wipe her off your friends list
2006-08-23 06:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by AFwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋