My husband goes out once a week with the guys to play pool.He says he does'nt mind if I go out on another night,but when I do,he complains about where I go.Is this too much for him to go out and should he get a say in where I go if I don't get a say in where he goes.
2006-08-23 05:54:24 · 27 answers · asked by jayne s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I have the same agreement, but he never complains about where I go. Tell him that if he doesn't like you going out, you both can stay home from now on.
2006-08-23 05:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on where you're going. If it's much more expensive, or not as "harmless" as his playing pool with the guys, perhaps your nights out should be more comparable.
If I was spending a simple evening with my friends hanging out, but my husband wanted to go all out with the guys - dinner, bars, spending so much $$, tempting environments - I'd have a problem too.
So you see you haven't given any of us enough info. And anyway, Mike was right, it's sad. Why are you asking a bunch of anonymous people here - go talk to your husband about the situation!!
2006-08-23 13:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mahira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's fine the man as well as the woman both need time and space to themselves and come home to each other, this has to be a common agreement now, its no I go you can't and also a time limit no 3am & 4am in the morning, desent respectable time like maybe 1am or 2am no, and maybe you should not be going that much, and if we are going to enjoy ourselves you need not to tell me where to go, what he wants you to say ok and do another that is trouble starting ,maybe twice a month, he should good shoot pool and the same for you twice a month and one of those nights each should be with each other around friends later remember what is good for him is good for you
2006-08-23 13:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpeachyp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both trust each other it should not be a problem. Personally ( no this is for real ) if I go out I want my husband to be with me. We just have a blast together, were best friends. But does he think that your doing something wrong if you go somewhere that he does not approve of. Whats fair for the goose is fair for the gander.
2006-08-23 13:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the real issue is what you do when you get there. If you are bar hopping and going to clubs, the issue with him maybe that you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position with other men (i.e. dirty dancing). If you are going out dressed to kill, I would be concerned too. However, you should be very open in telling him EVERYTHING that goes on. If you are just going to a bar to drink and be with Friends, then he should grow up and trust you....assuming you haven't done anything in the past for him to question your trustworthiness.
2006-08-23 13:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by extra_37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it is definitely okay for the two of you to have your separate nights out. It give you both a break from this fast-paced world. However, if you don't ask where he's at, he shouldn't care where you go. There may be a problem with trust for him. Sit down and talk to him about it.
2006-08-23 12:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is SAD! If you have a problem, talk it out with him - don't ask a bunch of anonymous people on the Internet. If it bothers you that he goes, tell him. If he NEEDS one night away from you, he should tell you.
You're married adults, not children. For the good of the family, communicate.
2006-08-23 13:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kinda like my husband, he goes out at least once a weeks with the guys. And he says that I can go out, but when it really comes down to it. I can't. He gets really jealous and then all pissed off at me if I go out with the girls. So, I just stay home. Anyway, our children like me better and then they don't have to stay home with him.
2006-08-23 12:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tricky one. First of all, I'd say no, he isn't asking too much (as far as letting him go out one night a week). Me, I'd be asking for 3 nights :)
As far as where you are going, I guess it depends on where you are going and what his reasons are for objecting. Is he concerned for your safety (are you going to a bad neighborhood at 3 a.m.)? Does he think you're cheating on him? You need to include more of this information to get a good answer.
2006-08-23 12:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think once a week is bit much, but he shouldn't b questioning u when it's ur turn. as long as u 2 have trust 4 each other what's he compiling about. he's going out once a week.
2006-08-23 13:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋