my husband who I've been with about three years dating and we just got married Feb of 06. he used to cheat well i should say i found out he had a girlfriend while we were into our relationship a year and i was pregnant when we were dating now he is on myspace sending messages to people trying to meet up when I confronted him he said he was just replying not to be mean but i noticed he has been searching local people with messages like you want me to rock your world and dumb *** **** like that what should i do i have three kids and really no money for daycare should i move in with my parents
2006-08-23 05:52:54 · 13 answers · asked by rasheeta1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would kick my husband's a**. That won't make him stop disrespecting you though. If I were you I would take lessons from him. It seems like he wants an "open marriage" in which it is ok to date other ppl. I would do the same MYSPACE thing. Just post a profile and put some pics up there. Before you know it you will have ppl to respond to as well. Then when he asks about it, just simply say, "I didn't want to be mean."
The adult thing to do would be to tell him how it makes you feel. It sounds like you may need some counseling and if he is not willing to respect your feelings, I would live off of him until I had enough money saved up or stashed away to get divorced, moved out and moved into a new place so fast it would make his head spin.
If he is supporting you (i.e. paying rent and so forth) take advantage of the opportunity you have to further your education so you will be prepared to leave him and support yourself when you do catch him again because you will.
YOU THINK YOU'RE STUCK WITH HIM AND HE DOES TOO so he's just doing whatever he wants because he thinks you can't do anything about it, and you can't leave his buttttt.
2006-08-23 06:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by ushouldnoidontplay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your new husband is BAD news. I think cheating is unforgivable, especially when he's a repeat offender! I understand it may be difficult to leave him but it would be the best for you and the children. Your husband obviously does not care about your feelings. In the long run, you will be happier without him.
Talk to your parents and friends...if you cannot afford daycare right now, maybe moving in with someone SHORT TERM is a good idea. If someone is willing to watch the children, that give you time to go out and look for a decent-paying job, so that you can afford daycare and get a place of your own.
Good luck, you'll be ok!
2006-08-23 12:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Donkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man and I am telling you, he isn't going to change. He's still cheating and if you put up with it you are just going to be miserable. Move out, file for divorce and stick him with child support. Have him pay through the courts. That way you won't have to fool with him. If he doesn't pay, he'll go to jail. Also, get spousal support. You will be better off for it.
Sometimes revenge is sweet.
2006-08-23 13:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your eyes open and do whatever you can to provide for yourseslf and your kids. Put back as much money as you can where he can't get to it. Get yourself prepared to leave. It's unfortunate, but a man who has cheated in the past is very likely to cheat again.
2006-08-23 12:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Elle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in with your parents, but not for long. Make sure you get a job and get back on your feet soon for the sake of your children. Forget that man, he's not worth it, but if he's good to your children make sure he is still a part of their lives even though he's not a part of yours anymore.
2006-08-23 12:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...if you knew he cheated when you were prego the first time... didn't you take a hint on the 2nd and 3rd? Go move in with your parents and get a job!! Stop havin kids!
2006-08-23 12:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a lawyer. If you make the wrong move or move out without consulting one you might be sorry. A consultation with one shouldn't cost much. Maybe your parents can help you with the cost.
2006-08-23 12:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. He is lloking for her. He is a dog. I would move in with the parents until you get on your feet. You can get support from him for the children and your self. Good luck
2006-08-23 12:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where I am from your husband would be responsible for paying for childcare in the event that you break up. I know that leaving him will be hard, but if it is something that you want to do (and I know I would want to), then do it! My best friend is a single mother, and it is hard for he to get by, but she does, and you can,too!!!
Good Luck,
Ashley
2006-08-23 13:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump hime find yourself a decent man. Too bad, that I am already taken.
2006-08-23 12:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋