erm... how shall i tell my parents and hers that we are very serious about eachother? How do you think they will react?
2006-08-23 05:44:39 · 26 answers · asked by podgeman 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
parents suck... id just tell them whats going on in case anything happens then that way there they are kinda prepared for the worst outcome. but any parent isnt gonna wanna see there 16 yr old having sex. but it happens. just tell them how they feel and if they dont respect that your trying to open up to them then dont tell them anything nemore. thats what i would do. if they cant understand that... then let them know... if your trying to open up and tell them whats going on in your life and they cant except it... then they shouldnt expect u to tell them nething else.
wow... and as for these people telling u ur too young to know what love is... let me tell you... i feel in love at 16 with this kid and im now married to him at the age of 19 and have a baby on the way and i havent been this happy in my entire life... so dont listen to those stupid people.
good luck.
2006-08-23 05:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by dOll FaCe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure they already know that you are serious about your relationship with her. And unlike the posts on here so far, I believe you can find your future mate at 16. I did! I met my husband at age 16 and we married when I was 18. I am now 29 and we are still very much in love and expecting our first child. But if you feel the need to tell your parent. Just say what you feel....Good luck!
2006-08-23 12:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by jamiecarter01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you say I have "done it" with her makes me wonder about your level of maturity. No offense. I lost my virginity early.. so I know it would be pointless to say don't it. I think you're confusing love with sex. It is very possible to have one without the other. I'm thinking this is the first girl you've had regular sexual relations with. I can only image how much your hormones are raging now. For safety sake (you don't want unintended pregnancies), find other ways to experience sexual pleasure without actually having sex, i.e. mutual mastubation, oral sex, etc.
My son is 7. But if he were your age and having sex, I would want to know about it. From birth, I've encouraged my son to talk to me about anything. He's now discovering masturbation and although it drives me crazy to have to discuss it with a 7yr old, if I don't give him honest answers to his questions, he'll make stupid mistakes that could've and should've been avoided.
Concerning the girl you're in love with, I don't feel you're too young to know what love is but I do think you have other things more important than love- like getting an education that leads to a job to support your 'love'. Love, the girls, the sex.. all that stuff will be there.. but if you're not personally prepaired to handle it, it won't matter because you'll never keep a girl.
2006-08-23 13:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you one thing for sure... being in a "serious"relationship at that age is not always what it seems. You may have feelings for them that you have never had for another, but I would be careful that she does not get pregnant, and don't make any foolish decisions. I was not pregnant, but because of problems at home with my perverted step dad, I married my best friend when I was 16 and he was 19, we were "in love", we were both way too young and immature to deal with that kind of responsibilities. We now have 3 kids, and that is the only reason I am still with him. Please Please Please don't do anything you would regret. Just keep dating her, if you care for her the same in 4 or 5 years, then you can talk about other things.
2006-08-23 12:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well usually the case would be that your too young for that... if you both really love eachother and you guys have future plans witheachother then tell her parents.. but remeber that it might make matters worst...(you know how parents are with their daughters).. but just remeber that you are both young and that you may feel this way now but later (in the future when your relationship with her gets even more serious) you may say that you were to young to to think you were in love and that you may need to just expierence life..or it could be the other way around.. if you don't regret it in the future then she probably will...you should really think about this
2006-08-23 13:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my answer for you, would be dont tell any parents.
i just turned 17, and im kindof in your situation, so i think its safe to say that your parents will freak out (especially if you tell them youve had sex)
so id advise, you just keep enjoying your relationship, dont worry about marriage for awhile, (i know you may not think so, but you could meet another girl sometime) and if everything keeps going smoothly, get married in college when your parents cant do anything to stop you.
wait for independence man.
just remember that because the two of you get along and like to have sex together doesnt mean youre in love.
good luck
2006-08-23 13:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by flamingseraph6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they probally wont react too well being u two are so young i would wait until u guys are 17, i know u probally want to do it now but then u can say u 2 have been together for a year and are very serious
2006-08-23 12:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire. You have your entire life ahead of you to be thinking of sex. Do you have no other goals for your life? Are you not active in sports, school, or friends. If you came to me and you were my son and told me you were sexually active at 16 I would be highly disappointed. You have no respect for a girl if you are having sex with her and she has no respect for herself. If you are not financially and emotionally ready to handle the consequences of sex then you are not ready to man up and have sex. You are too young to have a child and you sure don't need an std. You are no man and you are playing a man's game. Be a boy for as long as you can. GEEZ!
2006-08-23 12:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the two of you should have your parents over for dinner, either at her house or your house.
At dinner, you two can announce your love and devotion for one another over food, but put it nicely.
Both parents might take it hard, I predict her parents will be mad that she lost her virginity at 16 but they'll get over it evenutally. Parents need to let go at some point and allow us to fall in love and to get hurt.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-23 13:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to these stupid idiots people who tell u that u dont know what love is , these people telling u that because they are have never been in love and they are jelous . dont tell your parents until 18 cuz your parents have any right on u . when u turn 18 then marry her and do what ever that u like to do becuase parents can dislike your gf and then sucks .
2006-08-23 14:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋