We had an argument last night and I felt pretty upset about it as he was not very kind towards me. He was stressed from work and I felt iike my support has meant nothing to him. When I got upset, he got angry with me. Anyway, I was in tears last night but I said nothing. I am meeting him this Thursday and I am sad that we had this argument as he was really sweet with me for the last weeks. He was the first one who sent me a message today and he was trying to be nice to me and then he said that he hoped I wasn't upset anymore as there is no need. I replied and explained to him that his comment yesterday hurt my feelings and made me feel as if he thinks I am not good at supporting him and I said that I didn't deserve that because I was only trying to help and I was sorry it turned to be an argument about it. He replied and said "ok sorry. you are so sensitive.. " I am now upset even more. Why did he say that to me?
2006-08-23 05:41:14 · 16 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You sound like a *****. Leave the poor man alone.
2006-08-23 05:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because Men and Women do not typically think alike. Most often women are emotional and men are physical thinkers and reacters. Example, we cry and try to analize a soultion- they work out and go on about life. Men also do not carry things the same way women do. So, the comment about you are so sensitive is probably because he is over the issue himself, and may not understand why you wouldn't be too. If he sent the first message today, that's a sign that he wants to go on and forget about the argument. He also, realizes that he was not nice, and saying there is no need to be upset anymore may be an attempt at an apology. Try to understand that it's difficult to apologise for something when you are not exactly clear on what you did. Just ask him to be a little nicer when he is stressed about work.
2006-08-23 05:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by hr0803 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just maybe you are reading too much in to this!
I'm saying this because of the details that you gave in your question. To me I'd say that he's already upset about work so why go to him right now and say I feel like you don't appreciate all that I'm doing for you?
If you support your man then support him be there just for the sake of being there not so that you can just say that I'm doing all this to get nothing in return! You never know how your support is affecting him sometimes guys don't always express all there feelings there guys!
You just have to be secure in your self and your relationship to know that just being there is enough!
2006-08-23 05:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bunnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to take his stress out on you because of his job. It puts stress and pressure on the relationship. If you don't mind him talking about his work ask him if there is something you can do for him. I would talk to him and tell him that he hurt your feelings when he said you were sensitive and that was not the problem. He is using this line as a defense mechanism because he knows his behavior was bad.
2006-08-23 05:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by lexxy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a guy and guys are not really known for their sensitivity. My boyfriend's the same way. He's great he treats me great but he does not understand female emotions at all. He's learned that sometimes he just needs to keep his mouth shut and give me a hug.
2006-08-23 05:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kayl Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of a relationship are the ups and downs and how the two people handle them. Good thing is you ARE talking about it. You are both apologizing for it, etc. I don't think he means you are so sensitive in a bad way. He apologized, you apologized. Learn from your disagreements and learn from them. Relationships are not alays smooth - one who thinks they are - well they are fooling themselves. You worked through it, and you were able to talk about it - that is good!
2006-08-23 05:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 10:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very insensitive, so this is really not a big deal. They are sooooo opposite from us and its hard to get to the point that we(women) can understand this!!!
2006-08-23 05:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are sencetive because u couldn't forgive him.his doning was not so bad that u were upset for 1 day .of course i'm like u and every body tell me i'm so sencetive.
2006-08-23 05:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Sad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are too sensitive silly, just put it behind you, you told how you felt theres nothing more you can do. you ust be a kid..
2006-08-23 05:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋