i was feeling bad about my life, without getting into details, i had sex with a woman used to that before, the problem that i felt that i love her and that i need to marry her, sometimes when i think about that i feel i am doing something wrong, but actualy i like being with her, give me your thoughts
2006-08-23 05:39:00 · 10 answers · asked by wispercall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Evolution has it pretty much down to a science: Most guys stick around until the kid they sire is 4 or 5. So, you are right in the pattern. The mature man, who wishes to be part of his child's life, be a parent, and a father is able to overcome evolution, and raise his child(ren) with his wife. You, apparently are still an immature male, and there are lots of you out there---age has nothing to do with immaturity. They feel the grass is always greener on the other side, that an occasional screwing fling is just fine, and that the sex with their wife is no longer as good (but few men realize that in reality, it is indeed their own fault--- they are lousy lovers, and their wives rarely tell them so. You are probably such a lousy lay that she has had to fake it, just to get it over with..... and women will do that, because they don't have the heart to tell you..... and women can fake it all, even to vaginal contractions!!!! Married people know each other well enough to have sex, but to rarely talk about it.... a book you might find interesting written by THE sex therapist in the nation today, "For You Both" by Lonnie Barbach -- get it cheap in paperback at Amazon.com. Could be at your house by Friday---worth every dime).
Sir, there is and always will be temptation out there, and there is still AIDS and other STD's, and no one thinks it will get them. If some babe is phucking you, she is doing it to others as well -- and don't forget, you are in bed with everyone she has ever been in bed with, and that could be a very large number. Oh, and don't do the big confession bit with your wife: you have made one horrid mistake of betrayal, don't make two by telling her, and expect her to wish to stay with you.....if you do, she will never again trust you, and in the end, your marriage will be irrevokably eroded. My thoughts? Build a solid trust with your wife, be a terriffic supporting dad to your child(ren), and be a contributing member of your neighborhood and this society. (Learn to be a good, unselfish lover!!!! read that book.) Be a good employer or employee. In other words, cultivate yourself to be a wonderful person. You asked. Good luck.
2006-08-23 06:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the reason why you feel that way is obvious that other woman was given you something that you were not getting at home. When things like this happen, you need to sit down with your wife (not to discuss the affair) but to discuss what you need out of this marriage. If you want your marriage to work, you will have to give this other woman up. When you are feeling bad the person that you need to go to first is your spouse after all this is your lifetime partner and you should be able to go to her about anything.
2006-08-23 12:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very disturbed about this question. It shouldn't even be a question. You ARE MARRIED, you HAVE A DAUGHTER - why would you be so selfish to lust after another woman. How are you going to explain to you "little girl" that you don't love her mommy anymore and want to be with someone else. Please try not to think about "your" needs. Since you already have a family you should think about your "families needs"
2006-08-23 12:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is never good. girl or guy! you probably need to relax and take a look at your life. and why you are feeling this need. worry about yourself and your daughter and your husband!! you are just probably looking for love. enjoy your little girl. just keep on being a good mom and take a break from all the other stuff. look at your marriage and see if you want to make it work.
2006-08-23 12:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by mml619 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you leaving your daughter with your current wife? Your asking for a world of hurt, both for your family and for you, relationships have their ups and downs, I have been to the point of giving up on my wife a couple of times but couldn't leave because of my two little girls. It has payed off because my relationship with my wife is getting better and my girls haven't had to suffer through a messy seperation.
2006-08-23 12:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counselling. Try individual at first. Don't break your wife's heart for your indiscretion. And don't think staying with her for your daughter's sake is the anwer. You have to figure out what is going inside you to make you look away from your mate.
2006-08-23 12:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by ALexandra F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and stop having sex with other women.
2006-08-23 12:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know it is wrong to cheat. If you leave your wife Please help her and support your child.
2006-08-23 13:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by jingles_200 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it
2006-08-23 12:47:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ice Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DA MAN!!!!!!
2006-08-23 12:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋