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I found out my wife is cheating on me.. I actually walked in on them. I thought she was cheating once before, but I had no real proof. So I put it out of my mind. I love her, but I'm not sure I can ever totally forgive her or trust her completely again. Part of me wants to leave her, But another part does not. The part that does is because of what she did, it hurts so bad! But the part of me that does not is because we have been married for 10 years, and we have eight children together. I just don't know what to do. What should I do? Help!!!!

2006-08-23 05:34:00 · 15 answers · asked by Success _man 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

when i said i suspected she was cheating that was only two years ago. but we did have a set of twins seven moths ago next week. but what if she was cheating before i just dont know what to do

2006-08-23 05:47:48 · update #1

15 answers

I'm sorry to hear of your wife's inability to stay committed in your marriage. If you truely love her and have 8 kids then you should try to work on the relationship. Maybe a couselor or something. I would hate to see your kids suffer from a divorce, but I think you will need to talk to someone to rebuild your trust. Good luck and I wish you and your family the best.

2006-08-23 05:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 2 · 0 0

Me personally could never get the picture of them together out of my mind. I would never trust my partner again and I believe that is the only way a marriage can work, but if you are a forgiving person and this is a incident that when resolved will never be brought up again or used as a toool in an argument than I believe you may make it. I think you need to make a decision and then ask her what her feelings are because obviously she either wants a new relationship by cheeting or just needs attention-sex. This may be her way of getting the message thre to you. ( although it is also a good way to get shot ) but when everything calms down, talk with her.

2006-08-23 05:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0 0

People are going to tell you to think of your children and stay for them. And they're partially right. But your unhappiness in your marriage rubs off on your children. They see and pick up on it, even if they dont know what's really going on. Talk to your wife, sit her down and see what she wants. Does she want to work it out? Find out what made her cheat. Because she cheated because *something* is lacking in your marriage. And no, I'm not saying it's all your fault that she cheated or that she had a right to do it. Not at all. Just that that's why people cheat: because something big is missing from the marriage that they havne't been able to find any way else. Counseling is most definitely in order. I say get together with your wife, talk to her, find out what it is and see about working on it together. The marriage can still be saved IF you both want it to and are committed to making it work. And if you can still find it in yourself to trust her. That also means deciding what YOU want. But don't do it for the kids; do it for youself and your marriage. Because kids will happy with happy parents.... even if it means that those parents are happier apart than together. That was my parents--they were far better apart then they ever were together.

Good luck to you. Be kind to yourself.

2006-08-23 05:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0 0

you've been some busy people. seriously i don't think that it is going to be the same in your heart with your wife since you seen what you did, In reality it would be cheaper to stay, but that is a decision only you can make. But if you can't trust her and now wondering about the twins, I would say, you have allot to think about. At this point if I were you I would ask the guidance from your higher power, you may find comfort in whatever you decide.

I wish you all the best

2006-08-23 05:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0 0

I was in the same kind of relationship for 12 yrs. Like you, I was in love and tried to make it last. I was miserable for 12 yrs.
Finally, She left me. I was devastated. I was 44 yrs old at the time and thought no woman would want a man of that age.
The first week of our separation, word got out that we were divorcing. And six different women(ages 18 thru 40) showed up at my house to console me.
My wife came over to get some of her clothes on a Saturday. I had an 18 and 26 yr. old with me, in bikinis. Both were super hot. We were going out on my cruiser at the lake. I got more satisfaction from seeing my wife's face turn a bright pink, than I did from doing both girls on my boat.
Get rid of her. She don't deserve you. You'll be surprised how quickly she'll become a distant memory.

2006-08-23 05:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Cal 5 · 0 0

Sit down and talk to your wife. It seems she is looking for something else or maybe just an escape. Sometimes, life can be overwhelming and we don't all handle things the best way. If you want to save your marriage and she is willing, I suggest counseling. Otherwise, seeking a counselor on your own will help you to move forward with your life.

2006-08-23 05:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by fanched 1 · 0 0

u had 8 children with a woman you caught cheating on you or actually walked in on...? Well if she did it then im sure she is still doing it.. so i mean its a hard decision but if it were me id probably leave her i mean you cant trust her what is a relationship without trust!!!

2006-08-23 06:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by babygurl001 1 · 0 0

I'm really sorry. You have some decisions to make. The first thing you need to know is that you are not responsible for her choices. If she chooses to be unfaithful it is her responsibility and she can not blame you (even though she might try). If you choose to try to make it work insist she see a counselor with you and find a way that she can become accountable for her behavior.

2006-08-23 05:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 0 0

of the Eight children, how many are yours? Questions should be flying at this point, as in, "Are you for real?" I suspect this is an attempt at humor. IF so, LOL. IF for real, I am still LOL...such a whimp! Supporting all those kids who came from god knows where....LMAO

2006-08-23 05:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You had 8 children with a woman you thought was cheating on you? Not very smart. Divorce her man.

2006-08-23 05:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0 0

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