I kinda come across a close relatives diary { just for the record am not nosey), and in it she had written about her experience with a girl from school, she even wrote that she is in love with this girl, i am really shocked cause she is really young and let me just say we come from a community that doesnt accept gayness as a normal way of life, how can i ask her without freaking her out ?
2006-08-23 05:32:55 · 13 answers · asked by blacroze 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Let's see; your reading someone else's diary, but your not nosy. (Thanks for clearing that up) And now that you've read things you had no business reading; you want to clarify a few of the finer points.
Well frankly Ms. I'm Not Nosy; You are! Whether or not she's gay, of bisexual or whatever is no more your business than what was written in her diary.
Get your nose out of other people's butts, quit sneaking around reading people's diaries, and get a frigging life or your own.
Shame on you!
2006-08-23 05:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by perfecttiming1 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oooh this is a tough one. She is bound to get p*ssed off b/c she's young and you read her diary. Young people absolutely HATE their privacy invaded. So what I would do is say "Listen, I came across your diary and I read something in there that concerns me a little." She will know exactly what you are talking about and ask her if there is anything she wants to talk to you about. She will most likely freak out and say hell no, but she will come around eventually and talk to you about it. That's one way to approach the situation. Now, if the suspense is killing you and you have to know if she's a lesbian or not, just be straight up and ask her. But just some advice: Young people (especially girls) go through this all the time. They are trying to discover who they are and who they are sexualy and they are curious. I am 23 now and I am straight. But when I was a teenager, I kissed girls and pondered the thought that I could be gay. But I'm not. I was just curious. I would almost guarentee this is a phase and she will grow out of it. But if she doesn't then oh well, she's a lesbian. It's not a big deal these days. You can't control who you love. Accept her for who she is and don't judge her. And screw the people in the community who won't accept her. People who are judgemental and narrow minded are the ones with the problem. Good Luck:)
2006-08-23 12:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you arent "nosey", yet you read someone else's diary.....so, you want to tell her that while you weren't being nosey, you read her diary and just so happened to read that she is in love with another girl.
consider this, maybe she has suspicions about you going thru her stuff and possibly wrote that in there to see if you would say anything to her, or anyone else.
i dont keep a diary, but i do keep a journal, i suspected someone of "rooting" thru my stuff and i created a fake journal and wrote a bunch of stuff to see if my suspicions were true, and you know what...they were.
the best thing you could do is not say a thing to anybody out of the possibility of making yourself look like a fool, and if she wants to tell people, than she will.
2006-08-23 12:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by daddysboicub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is just an opinion but if you know her very well, just try to sit down and talk to her one day and just talk about things and after awhile in the conversation (because you don't want to bring it up first) just bring up the thing about the diary and just ask her about it.
That's what I would do.
2006-08-23 12:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could pull her aside , and tell her that it is OK to like the same sex we are only human tell her u respect her either way and then ask her and if she does not want to answer let it be don't push it she will let people know when she is ready to let people know... hope this helps
2006-08-23 12:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's a little kid, they can love their friends without being gay. Love is kinda different to kids.
2006-08-24 23:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a way to do it.
She'll tell you if/when she feels like it.
Meantime, you have to sit on information that you have no business possessing.
2006-08-23 12:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont ask them if they are you just name gay stuff like gay songs and romantic films and ask if they like them
2006-08-23 13:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by sharples_iain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, Hey! Are you gay?
2006-08-23 12:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by yagman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her the other way..like
"Do you know which boys are charming..?" if they don't show interest.. that means they are
2006-08-23 12:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋