My boyfriend and I had a fight lastnight cause He never really spends time with me anymore. I asked him who he's been hanging out with and I asked him if he was cheating or if he likes some other girl. He swears up and down he doesn't. He says he'll never get rid of me and he loves me too much. But I feel like I am not making him happy anymore and I have told him this. He says that he is happy with me, but I have to stop bitching and accusing him of cheating.. also a friend of mine says that if he hasn't cheated yet then he's thinking about it. Now my bf is worried about me leavin him for my friend and I told him I didn't want anyone eles. I just need some advice on how I can make my relationship better so I don't loose my bf.. I love him with all my heart.
2006-08-23 05:32:10 · 4 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you love him, then trust him. Quit asking him if he's cheating. If you find evidence of it, then move on.
2006-08-23 05:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jen, sometimes it is hard to tell what really is going on in the mind of your partner, I guess unless you have telepathy, you would know immediately. I know how much you love your boyfriend. Yet, your boyfriend is somehow giving you signs of something going on. I would hate to think that he may no longer be happy with you as partners, and he's better off being your friend. His way of telling you is very hard for him, I'm sure, because I'm also sure that he doesn't want to hurt you at all.
Sometimes no matter what we do to make our relationships stronger, it may still not work out. It's like, you can't talk yourself into liking something you just don't like. Enough with the accusations. You sit down with him alone, you tell him your thoughts. You listen to him, and he will listen to you. Analise the real situation. Don't do anymore accusations, because you really don't know what's in his mind. Collect everything in order, then put them together, and come up with a solution.
Be prepared for either a negative response, or a positive response. Listen to each other carefully. If things end up being positive, be happy about it, and keep it that way. Spend more time together. Manage time, as time is very important in both your lives. If things end up being negative, which I hope they don't, be sure it is what you both want, and that it is for the best of the two of you. Still be friends. Good luck, Jen.
2006-08-23 12:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accusing him of cheating is only going to make things worse. Unless you can prove it, bite your tongue. If you were getting accused of cheating and you weren't, you would get defensive too. Don't smother him. Let him hang out. Make time available for the two of you, but don't put your life on hold and wait around for him. If he wants to spend time with you, he will. If he doesn't, find someone who does.
2006-08-23 12:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have to straighten up if you want to improve your relationship. He needs to spend time with you, and you have to stop accusing him.
2006-08-23 12:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋