really bad news? Do I just flatly say it or do I sugar coat it for her? Are you blunt when you have to tell someone something terrible? Also, how do I begin? Something like "I have bad news." or "There is something I need to talk to you about." ? What sounds less awkward?
2006-08-23 05:29:27 · 9 answers · asked by danac210 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The best way is to be honest but gentle. Remember this is going to be a shock for them, so choose the right moment in relaxing surroundings and simply be as supportive as it is possible to be.
May I suggest that you begin with something like, 'This is really awkward, but I have some news that is going to upset you.' - and then take it from there.
You sound like a really nice, sensitive person, so I am sure you will work a way through this. Thank heavens the news is going to come from someone like you instead of from someone who is less caring.
Good Luck.
2006-08-23 05:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct. A preface like either of those you mentioned
(both are fine) can give the listener a moment to prepare. But don't beat around the bush. I've had the experience of breaking the news of an untimely death, and I found that people didn't get the point until I used the word "dead." Once it's said, no amount of sugar-coating is going to help, anyway. Just take a deep breath and say what you have to say.
2006-08-23 12:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "I have something to confess... your husband and I had sex." LMAO!!!
No, seriously, just say what you have to say. It need not to be said after a "pleasant" intro because what really matters is the bad news itself anyway.
However, you can try the following intro: "I know this is not going to be good but you have the right to know..." and perhaps you can end it with, "I'm standing right in front of you now and waiting for any help you might immediately require."
2006-08-23 13:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize with you...I hate having to do that. I always just told the person that I was sorry but I had some bad news to tell them. I then just told them the truth and was there for comforting when it was needed. Good Luck!
2006-08-23 12:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by blue_eyed_soul_woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sugar coat, but try to prepare thema little .Say something like " I have to talk to you and I don't know the best way, so I'm going to come right out "......
2006-08-23 12:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by barbiesworldinsc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just say " look I have to be up front and honest" and tell what you need to tell. You dont want to be remembered as dishonest, or sugar coating anything.
2006-08-23 12:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out tell her because when you say I have to tell you something, you might pause and get scared to tell her rather than just blurting it out which will feel a bit more relieving
2006-08-23 12:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You meet them
Have'em seated
And with a little touch
With soft voice
You deliver the message
Give condolescences
Have them know that they count with you anytime
2006-08-23 15:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by spyblitz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have something important i need to discuss with you....when would be a good time when we wont be interrupted?
then lay it out honestly
good luck!
2006-08-23 12:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by friskygimp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋