The mother of the child has brought him the baby and has signed over custody to your husband, would you help raise the baby or leave him?
2006-08-23 05:27:29 · 36 answers · asked by jaimestar64cross 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is based on a situation that happened to my friend in the USA.... I would like to know others opinions on the matter and I will tell you what she did after this question has expired.
2006-08-23 05:30:04 · update #1
If I trully loved my husband,and forgave the infidelity.I would.Because the child is innocent and needs someone to love,nurture and guide it,no matter the circumstances surrounding its' arrival.
2006-08-23 05:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have decided to stay with your husband, knowing he has had an affair and this child is the product of it, then yes. This child is innocent, if the childs mother has signed over all custody then you would take over the role as the childs mother, treat the child as you would your own. If you can't deal with the fact that your husband had an affair, then you will have to leave him. Either way, you should seek counselling.
2006-08-23 05:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by jtj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be 100% honest. I WOULD raise the child, because I don't feel that an innocent child should be held accountable for the mistakes, wrongs, or faults of their parents. The child didn't ask to be born:)
But the fact is the precious child is here, and deserves unconditional love, attention, and a great home enviornment to grow up in, and find peace and protection and shelter from the crazy world.
I also believe you should know that even though this child is not your birth child, because you are married to the child's father, this child is just as equally yours as it's parents.
I encourage you to be a wonderful support for this child, be a wonderful mom to this child, this baby needs you.
Blessings To You & Yours
2006-08-23 05:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Pastors Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are innocent, however your husband isn't and your happiness should always come first. You have to think of the whole picture and decide if you can handle the questions like are you my real Mom? What are you going to tell this child? Your husband was an idiot for cheating and should be responsible enough to raise this child on his own. Why drag yourself down with someone elses child? Think about it, you won't ever trust him completely because of this, and you will resent the child in the end.
Good Luck.
2006-08-23 05:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You make it sound like the child is at fault. Get this...the child is not at fault. Is not the child's fault that the parents had to split up. What if one of the parents died during the birth of the child? Of course, the child would be raised properly, overseeing that he is in good health, has a good education, has everything he needs, and be there for the child. Why should it matter if it came from someone else...that is part of your commitment, isn't it?
2006-08-23 05:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the type of woman you are. If you choose to stay and raise this child as your own, you need to be resolute in NEVER BRINGING UP THE AFFAIR. Care for the child as if he/she were your own.
If you can't live with that sort of distrust - and I know I would not - then leave.
Either way, it's black or white. You either stay and shut up, or you leave and shut up.
As much as I believe he's a creep for doing this, I still believe that children are a gift from God and should NOT be punished for the ridiculous acts of their bio parents.
2006-08-23 05:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you knew about the affair and you decided to stay with him after the fact you should stay. If you've already gotten over him cheating the child shouldn't be a problem because you already knew what happened and you know how children are created so just deal with it and treat the child as your own. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-23 05:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by BabyGirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if she's married to him then she would have to or try to get used to it especially if she forgave him and stayed married to him.. once she took him back she took back all his problems to.. if she's not ready for it then she needs to separate from him for a lil while and think her position..
if my husband cheated on me and a child was produced i'd leave him and divorce him.. i don't think i could live w/his love child, it would just be a constant reminder that he can't be trusted.. and she shouldn't have to feel forced to care for a child that isn't hers.. it's a burden and the bad thing is that the wife and the child r innocent bystanders...
2006-08-23 05:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in this lifetime or the next. There would be no way I would take care of the baby or let any of my money go towards raising it. I would pack my bags and be out of there fast.
2006-08-23 05:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably yes. it's not the child's fault for having such irresponsible mom. besides, if my family has always been stable, it would not be a problem having to accept a new member of the family. it might even be healthy for my family and my children. if this would be the case, i would have to make sure that the mom will never have anything to do with our family. she has to leave the child with us.
2006-08-23 05:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by annika23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋