I cheated on my Girlfriend?

Question

I cheated on my girlfriend last weekend. I am 18 years old. I got really drunk at my friend house and this girl was all over me. The only thing she did was a bj. I have been going out with my gf for about 7 months. I have been reading people comments and its half to tell her or don't tell her. It sucks b/c little thing remind me of it and i feel like ****. This is her 2nd long term boyfriend and her last one mess her up really bad. WHAT DO I DO????

Answer 1

I agree with the most...do NOT say anything. you will feel like crap for a while, as you should, but if you concentrate on your gf and keep out of trouble....in other words if you really do care for her...time will heal the past. just straighten up and fly right from now on

Answer 2

You should not have let that happen. Will you let it happen again?

I would not tell her. You will lose her if you do. I am sure. She won't ever be able to get that image out of her mind.

Welcome to LIFE 101. Now you know the pain of betrayal because you have a conscience too and made a mistake. You are still only 18 but better these mistakes come out now than later when you are married with children and hurt more lives. See how bad it can get?

I would stop and consider what your girlfriend means to you. If she is someone you want to spend forever with don't tell her. That will be your price to pay and probably better you carry that secret with you to the grave as a reminder always how bad betrayal can be. Of course you would never cheat again. That would just make you a cad.

Answer 3

Don't tell her. Just be good to her, and don't let it happen again. But a bj isn't that big a deal. It would have been much worse if you had kissed her or something. The point is you didn't do anything, except possibly let a girl assault you in your drunken state. You didn't go down on her or have sex with her. You showed this girl no affection.

There is no reason to tell your girlfriend. The important line to never cross is the one where you start giving rather than just receiving from other women. Your girlfriend should be the only one you give to.

Answer 4

Damn that's really really hard.
Since you were drunk that makes it ok.. Well not ok but better than if you were sober. And since it wasn't sex - technically YOU didn't do anything wrong - the girl did.
I don't think I would tell her. I'm on the fence.

This happened to my boyfriend before a LONG time ago- like 4 years ago and I STILL haven't gotten over it. He was really drunk and really high and some girl tried to have sex with him and he doesn't remember anything after that . He fell asleep. I believe him because we've talked about it several times and he DOES always fall asleep after he drinks.

IF you tell her anything - tell her what my bf told me. That you got really drunk and you remember some girl unzipping your pants and then you blacked out. And then of course tell her you won't drink that much again. And how is it cheating if you can't remember? She would just be mad at the other girl .

Either that or don't tell her at all. Just be sure she won't find out .. Like on here. What if she sees your yahoo answers?? Quick! Delete! Girls are snoopy

Answer 5

you could keep your mouth shut , but she WILL find out. Someone else will probably say something. It ALWAYS comes out one way or another. Being drunk is no excuse, you were coherent enough to know what you were doing and you knew it wasn't the right thing, if you truly didn't want her to do that you would have said "Get off me".I'll bet you would have said that if some big shaggy smelly homeless guy was about to go down on you. So you need to ask yourself , why did I do it? Maybe you aren't mature enough to be in a committed relationship and perhaps you shouldn't be in one. You should NEVER make promises that you CANNOT keep. If you want to play the field , better to do it as a free man. Don't lead girls on tho , if its just sex than it is JUST sex. Be VERY up front about it , because girls tend to confuse the two.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but I'm being realistic here! If you want to stay with this girl then you definetly don't want to tell her! It would only hurt her and if she has any pride whatsoever, then she will dump you. But make sure whoever you messed around with doesn't know anyone that she could tell and it get back to your g/f. You don't want her to find out by someone else. Have you ever seen the episode of "Friends" where Ross cheated on Rachel? You've gotta think about the TRAIL!!!!

Answer 7

If you really cared about her, tell her and stop being so scared. If she gave someone a bj, would you want her to tell you? This thing is only going to eat you up alive. Thank goodness for that wondeful thing called a guilty conscience.

Tell her and the decision is hers on whether she wants to stay with you or not. That is not your decision to make. You messed up bad, yes, but everyone messes up. The best thing you can do is to learn from it.

Answer 8

As someone who's long-term boyfriend kissed another girl about a month ago, I think honesty is the best way. My boyfriend admitted it right away and we are still working through it. Do you love her? How do you feel about her? Tell her but, if you love her, make her see that it was a huge mistake and you're the first to admit it. Also, not to sound like a horrible person, if you cry when you tell her, she'll be more apt to forgive. Anyways, you're still an absolute ****** for doing that. I'd dump you.

Answer 9

ask her is receiving a bj considered cheating and if she says yes then let her know that u cheated and tell her what happened.. she can either forgive u or leave u..

if she says no then keep it to urself and kiss her a s s all the time to make up for what u did.. not make up for it but u know what i mean..

u need to practice more self control.. u could've pushed her a way and u didn't cause u were thinking w/ur lower lil head.. all men r jerks.. u just proved us right again....

Answer 10

I agree, don't tell her - she'll drop you like a hot potato if you do.

Remember how you feel like ****. If you think you have any future with this girl, then think about how to move forward and create that future with her.

And never do this again. I hope it is not a sign of how you will treat women in the future. Good luck.