I want to leave and get a divorce anyone agrees i was always faithful to him the whole 11 years ,also got 2 kids to the man.
2006-08-23 05:01:54 · 28 answers · asked by taisiyiah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dump him quick
2006-08-23 05:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are human and every one makes mistakes, but the most important peice of info you need to find out is why he cheated?? That will really determine wether or not it was a mistake or if this is part of his personality. Some issues can be worked through, others however can not be changed. One thing I have noticed is if men get defensive and angry when you confront them about this then this is part of thier personality and as much as he may say he wants to change you can't change who you are or anyone else.
If he is genuinely sorry (only you will know that) then this may have been a mistake. What ever you do don't blame your self it is not your fault, it sounds like you have been a good wife.
Good Luck
2006-08-23 12:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by brandy82804 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eleven years is a long time. Is the affair over ? I know it hard to forgive and forget but get some marriage counseling. Before the eleven years what brought you two together. Something happened in that time where there was a lack of communication. If love is still in both your vocabulary then get some help. Honestly you can't let eleven years go down the drain. Both of you put so much energy to the relationship, now that's there a road block, is a time when you should pull together.
2006-08-23 12:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all you need to decide for yourself whether or not you want to stay with your husband or not. Because he's been cheating is not always the reason to leave. You have to decide if you want your marriage to work and you can survive a spouse cheating on you. Yes, it's going to take a lot of hard work and determination on both of you. Talk to your husband to see where his head is. Sometimes men and women do stupid things without really thinking about the consequences. Yes, you will probably need marriage counseling to deal with some issues in your marriage. But only you and your husband can make the decision on whether or not to end your marriage. Don't be like him think about the consequences before you jump.
2006-08-23 12:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but as a man I know it is true. Once a cheater always a cheater. It does not matter if you confront him and he agrees to never do it again. It is even easier the next time because you have already gotten caught.
I would go get a lawyer and make sure you get custody and child support. Find a new man or woman and move on.
If you take him back just for the kids then you sould find yourself a boyfriend.
2006-08-23 12:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard decision to make, cheating is breaking the love, honesty, trust, etc. In the relationship. You need to talk to your husband, Find out why he did it Because their is areson behind every action.
Things can work out, don't just jump the gun and divorce...... if you really care.
Remember you have 2 beautifull kids, that need both parents. And divorce may tear their little hearts......
2006-08-23 12:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by *Cutie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him leave then get everything child support and alimony let him leave on good terms because of the children the reason i say support is not a gold digger thing its just women always panic about how am i gonna make it what about the bills the kids financially you'll be OK he still has to take care of his kids,the courts will make sure and chances are he will see the grass is not greener on the other side and want to come back they all do if you do take him back it will never be the same trust me i took mine back biggest mistake.
2006-08-23 12:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic with the situation be patient and try to find out the things which helped you realised that he cheated you, it might be possible that what you are thinking is just a misunderstanding and I would suggest that talk to your husband about it atleast once, then if you find it true and he is not ready to be loyal with you, then its better to leave him. But atleast you should talk to him on this for your kids.
2006-08-23 12:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once he cheated the marriage was essentially over. Get a divorce and move on with your life.
2006-08-23 12:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most men cheat at some point.
I'd find out if it was a one night stand/quicky. Or if it's actually a ongoing relationship before I did anything.
2006-08-23 12:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by Pardonthepun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children will be better off with a mom who respects herself enough to demand to be treated better than this man is treating you. If he doesn't make some serious changes for which he must be accountable then you may will choose to leave him. He doesn't deserve you.
2006-08-23 12:06:02 · answer #11 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋