I'm in love! We've been together only 4 months though. Is it too soon to get married? Just a thought, wanting an opinion...
2006-08-23 04:56:55 · 49 answers · asked by sara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Waaaay to soon. You're still in the infatuated, screwing-on-every - horizontal-surface stage. Wait at least a year, if not two.
2006-08-23 04:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask that question, then you should know its too soon. Marriage isn't a 'milestone' or and 'accomplishment' or an 'achievement'.
Why the need to get married? You're together, you're in love, what's the rush?
My wife and I live together for three years before we got married. Waiting hurts nothing and when you finally do get married its not an 'accomplishment', its just natural phase of a relationship.
You know i hate to say it, but the reason the divorce rate in America is a 58% is because people rush into marriage.
2006-08-23 05:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months is a little to soon, my suggestion is that you make sure exactly what you want before you get married to this person alot of things can change the longer you are together, You never know. My first marriage was after being together for only 7 months and that one didn't work. So take your time there is alot to learn. Good Luck
2006-08-23 05:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy and I were only dating for 3 months when we got engaged and only engaged for 2 months when we got married... sometimes you just know it's right. If you're worried only because other people are telling you it's too soon, then don't listen to them. Is he the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Do you have any reservations or concerns about getting married to him? If you do then wait and make sure, it never hurts to wait... if not then go for it! I hope you two have a long happy life together!
2006-08-23 05:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by starsmoak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. Wait it out a bit. Believe me, if the feelings are real, they will still be there in a year's time, but in the meantime you will have learned a lot more about your love. I believe very firmly in soul mates and that you just know when you find the person whose like the other half of your soul and fits like a glove, but I also know that sometimes we only think we're in love and come to find out a year or so later it was the wrong person. If he's your soul mate, you'll just grow closer with time, but marriage is NOT something to be entered into lightly. Because even soul mates will have a tough go at it. It's not easy and you have to work hard to make it work.
2006-08-23 05:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Sometimes it takes people years to find their soulmate and to have found yours in a short amount of time is great! I guess my question depends on how old you are. If you are 19 or early 20's I would say just make sure you completely know what you are in for. If you are older like late 20's (like myself) then go for it. The difference being I was engaged to my HS boyfriend and we are not together now. As you get older you know more about yourself, your wants, desires, and the world around you. Either way just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. It shouldn't matter if it's four months or four years when it's right it's right. Congratulations and best of luck!
2006-08-23 06:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be. The "honeymoon" of a relationship is usually six months. If I were you, just want a few more months then think about it. And if you're that much in love, try living together first. That way there won't be any unexpected habits you discover after you get married.
2006-08-23 04:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend after just 6 months. It's been 14 now and we aren't even engaged. Now I realize how much more I know about him than I did back then. I wouldn't rush into anything. I don't plan on getting divorced so I'm taking my time.
2006-08-23 04:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by krd12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie...it just depends on how comfortable you are in the relationship. My boyfriend's parents got married after 4 days and have been together 22 years this Monday. It's a personal thing that you and your guy need to disucss and decide on.
2006-08-23 05:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too early to get married. When I first met my boyfriend I was head over heels in love and let that dissolution me to think that things would be perfect forever...then when we had our first argument I thought it was THE END. If I'd taken more time to get to know him and appreciate my situation things would have been a lot less stressful...just enjoy the time you spend together right now...nothing is guaranteed or promised to be happy that you are happy now...
2006-08-23 05:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by Benny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can talk about it, but whats the rush? Are you getting married because you feel pressure from family?Or so you can move out of your folks? Or need someone to split the rent? Marrage is for LIFETIME!!! be prepared, know what you want, and then commit. Getting couples counseling to discuss what both of you want out of life, marrage etc is a good idea. That way ther are no unplesent surprises down the road.
2006-08-23 05:00:10 · answer #11 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋