Is it better to try to stop them, or ignore them and just ride it out quietly?
2006-08-23 04:46:59 · 21 answers · asked by Zelda Hunter 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No. I am not being abused, but thank you for asking. I have a friend who was raped at age 4.
2006-08-23 10:59:44 · update #1
There is no polite way to do this, you must be assertive. Don't be mean or angry just be true & straightforward. Do not just sit back & wait it out! No one benefits from nothing being said or done in this kind of situation. Seek help from a professional before approaching this person, to find the best approach.
Good Luck
2006-08-23 04:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People that are abusive...to themselves or others will not just stop being that way. They need to go and get some type of counselling. People that are like that don't always see that they have a problem and that is the sad part. Talk to them and get information for them on it...(Find another way of doing it if you feel at any time that the person may become abusive towards you.) They may get angry and be in denial about it but at least you planted the seed. There is an old saying "You can take the horse to the water but you can't make him drink." You can only help someone that wants to help themselves. If they want help...great! if not...then you need to think about and help yourself!
2006-08-23 12:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lei-Loo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way, I am afraid. If you love an abusive/ self-abusive person, the best you can do out of love is to be nearby and live your own life. The abusive/ self-abusive person has deep psychological reasons for this kind of behavior. If he/she knows about the problem, it's great, they can start looking for professional help and you can offer them as much emotional support as you can give. If they are unaware of their problem, there is no way other people can influence them in any positive life-changing way. Some drastic outward events or a real threat to their health may eventually open their eyes. And when they ask for help, here are you, nearby, living your life...
2006-08-23 12:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to say something then do so. But then go back and see if there is any way you are contributing, enabling, etc. Own anything you can that will help YOU to deal with the situation and allow you be ok with it. Their suffering doesn't have to be your suffering. Assuming they are adults, they will probably do what they want anyways and learn life's lessons like everyone else. Abuse hurts- and hurt people hurt. Therefore, in time, they will either contunue their patterns, or get help for it...if they WANT to. And if not then it is not your problem. Arguing with the reality of what is, will just keep you stressed. Let it go.
2006-08-23 12:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If people are being abusive to you, why would you want to be polite?
Get away from them.
Why would you want to surround yourself with someone who is abusive and takes away from your self confidence and your own happiness.
People who are abusive need help. Offer to schedule a professional appointment for counselling. If they do not take you up on it, then just leave.
Life is too short to surround yourself with un happy and mean people.
2006-08-23 11:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Night Train 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am taking a guess you work in customer service....
if that is the case you can reflect back to the person what you hear them say....
customer: I am so pissed off about this........
you: I can hear that you are angry about _________ Maybe if I understand the problem a bit better I can help you...
Keep your voice at a monotone.... and speak quietly.... they have to strain to hear you...
If they are calling you names etc do not try to help them... instead tell them you would like to be able to help them but because you thiink you are not the right person to help them you will get a supervisor to speak to them instead...
Then go straight to your supervisor and ask them to deal with this customer.... it is ther job ....
2006-08-23 12:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have felt challenged by this sort of thing I believe. My idea has been to make helpful information available even to whomever I meet. People may often be willing to accept a way out if they see there may still be hope.
2006-08-23 12:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends... two very different situations. there is no polite way to stop someone from being abusive... if they are abusive they don't need or deserve your politness. They deserve to be stopped.
If its self abuse, i don't think politiness is the word your looking for. Maybe, kindly stop them, or gently.
2006-08-23 11:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about the issue being destructive to someone. Rather than talking about them in a confrontational style.
2006-08-23 11:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Refer those persons suffering to an appropriate Psychiatric institute for help. and Donot leave them alone. It's our moral duty I think.
2006-08-24 06:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mani G.India 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋