Should I be concerned about a recent letter my 87 year old mother received from a "friend"? What would you do

Question

My mother, though frail, is mentally agile. She is widely read and has many friends and loving family. She lives on her own in a small condo. Each weeks she goes to a "Philosophy" Club held in the apartment of her neighbour and friend, Alan who is considerably younger....(55) About a dozen people attend these meetings; from every walk of life from truck drivers to retired university professors.
After a recent meeting, my mother received a straaange letter in the mail from Alan. It said simply: "Hold your head up high. Deliverance is near". I am wondering if I should contact him to inquire as to the meaning of his message. My mother, who is very stable, with a sense of humour, is shrugging it off, but I can tell it has disturbed her. She is unlikely to say anything to him about it. What would you advise me to do?

Answer 1

Oh Hells yes, I would talk to this Alan guy. Maybe he is harmless, but that message creeped me out a bit. I'm glad to see you are concerned for your mom's welfare and I'm glad she is doing well at her age. But yes, I would talk with this guy posthaste.

Answer 2

This maybe difficult for you to do, as I don't know your schedule, but maybe you should go to her Philosophy Club with her one day and check out Alan. If you can't make it, maybe you could ask someone else in the club to check him out. Also, you may want to contact the person in charge of this club and tell him/her about the note and maybe this person can keep an eye on Alan. I think someone should know about his letter. Good Luck.

Answer 3

It's your mother's decision on what to do about this letter- she probably wouldn't appreciate it if you talked to Alan about it w/o telling her. unless she is willing to talk about it with Alan, just let it go- but you might want to keep an eye on this Alan guy.

Answer 4

Contact him. Sure, you might annoy your mother slightly - but man, for all you know this guy could think he is Jesus or Allah or whoever else people worship these days, lol. I'd call him.
Maybe conveniently visit her, purely by mistake of course, right before their next little meeting. See if he seems unnerved by your presence.

Answer 5

Go talk to this man, but make sure it's in a public place and you have other people you know with you. If you really are sure it disturbed your mother, talk to this man and make sure you get the truth out of him.

Answer 6

yeah, that's weird. S. I would call him. it sound like he's referring to her death. Perhaps he can tell the future, but more likely, he's a freaking nutcase.