My neighbor kicked out his 18 yr old stepson for eating all the meat out of the beef stew he made. His stepson is also a high school dropout and does not have a job. Did he do the right thing?
2006-08-23 04:37:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In considering the kid dropped out of school and isn't working it appears he's developed quite an attitude and not a good one . One doesn't accidentally eat all the meat from a beef stew without being quite deliberate in his actions . He obviously with fore thought tried to make his stepfather mad and it worked. If he's willing to put forth such a challenge then he should be man enough to grow up and take care of himself. On the surface it may seem a bit harsh but he's not doing the kid any favors by ignoring his loser behavior either so I'm going to side with the stepfather on this. If your being taken care of with a home provided and food it's not wise to bite the hand that feeds you which is what the kid had done.
So now he can learn the hard way how to be a man and see what responsibility means . With his track record he had it coming . I raised a son who went through a rebellious period as I did also as a teen but pushing for a confrontation that is obviously a no win situation is plain stupid and it never happened with I nor my own son. I worked since 15 years old and paid my way entirely and at 18 I was well prepared and couldn't get out on my own fast enough and never went back and my son is quite successful as well.
2006-08-23 05:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kicking someone out for eating all the meat out of beef stew is a pretty stupid reason. If the kid doesn't have a high school diploma or a job and refuses to do so, then it would have probably been more appropriate to give him like a month to do it or he would have to leave.
2006-08-23 04:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just wanted an excuse. But my husband's father was very strict like that, actually called the cops on him for being a juvinile delinquent when he wanted to have a sandwich before he went to bed (my husband's one of those skinny people with a very high metabolism, so he burns calories very very quickly) but his dad didn't want him to. But the boy's 18, old enough to be on his own, no longer dependent on Mom and Dad (and he shouldn't be). So honestly, if the kid's a slacker and he's just laying around the house being lazy (aka really spoiled and used to being given everything), then your neighbor is teaching him some good old fashioned tough love. Either way, he's old enough to be on his own.
2006-08-23 04:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's 18 that is an age they should start getting ready to move out but for a stepdad to make the decision, I just want to know where the mom was I would never kick my son out as a mother
2006-08-23 04:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by 98ta 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is more to this story than what you state here. Yes he has the right to kick the boy out. But first he should tell the boy, ether you go back to school or get a job. You have 30 days to comply. If you don't do one or the other, your out of here.
2006-08-23 04:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
his stepson needs to grow up. I'm sure it wasn't just the fact that he ate all the meat. That was probably the last straw. this is kid sounds immature and he needs to learn how to grow up. The fastest and easiest way to do that is kick him out. Yes, he absolutely did the right thing
2006-08-23 04:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by chica123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. How lame and petty can anyone be??? First of all he needs to at least get out and find a job of some sort. What are you going to do all day??? Get out and do something constructive with your life!!! I would never kick out ANYONE for such a petty thing. But, like I said he needs to get a job! I do have to add in one thing! Just because you turn 18 doesn't mean you can move out either!!! That's the lamest thing. Nowadays kids can't move out by themselves at 18, it's not EVEN a norm any more, unless your going away to school or mom and dad are paying for everything!!! We live in S. California people 25 can't even afford to move out!!!
2006-08-23 04:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by bsnana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with fireball. He could have handled it better. He threw him out on a whim. At 18, he should be either going to school or have a job. Better yet, he should be doing both. But doing neither? He's depending too much on mom and step dad. Maybe this will force him to get some responsiblity.
2006-08-23 04:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think kicking a child out for something like that is wrong. If he wanted to kick the child out of the house it should have been for the right reasons, like having no job and not being in shcool. I think parents should try harder to get their kids on the right track rather than just giving up at the first chance they get.
2006-08-23 04:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by breezymourn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kicking his son out of his house just for eating all the meat out of beef stew is a little extreme...but it's his house, & it's his decision- besides, it's about time his stepson grew up and became more independent.
2006-08-23 04:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by annna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋