im scared im 27 weeks pregnant and.........?

Question

my boyfriend of five years is treating me really crappy i also have a 9 year old son and im scard of having two kids alone and being a single parent of two can any one give me any words of confidence or tell me how is it having two kids and being a single parent i have no clue?

Answer 1

don't even think about staying with him just because your having another child..i was a single parent for 5 years and yes it was hard but have confidence in yourself...my sons are doing great...i survived on making $7 hr..and yes you can do it..you'll find out that you will get more help not having him around...nobody likes to hear someone whining when you keep the S.O.B around..good luck

Answer 2

Don't be scared, women can make it without a man. My mom was a single mother for 7 years, she raised my sister and I and she didn't even had a car! she had 2 jobs and it was really hard, but she managed, later on in life she met our step dad and things changed. You have to look at it this way, there are women who have it worse than you, like all those military wives who have lots their husbands and have been left with kids and everything. That's how I look at it. My husband is deploying to Irak soon and I am pregnant, I do not have any family around here and I will have to manage the rest of my pregnancy on my own, he won't even be able to be here for the delivery and i will have to deal with it on my own, but that's ok because I know that at least he is still alive and I thank God for that every day. So you will be fine your 9 year old is old enough to help you around, so just a little advise, no woman is meant to be treated bad and if this guy is treating you like crap I would let him know that he is not the only man on earth and I would leave him.

Answer 3

Well being scared is normal. He is most likely treating you bad because he is scared also and that is the way he is dealing with it which is wrong but how it is. If you do break up I am sure you will be just fine. You already have one child so your lucky you know what it is like to have a child and you are able to know how to deal with the problems that occur with children. Plus you would be able to file for child support from the baby's father to help out with finances. Don't forget your a woman! Women do better under pressure. Just kidding. Just always look at the best side. You have a beautiful baby that you love and will be able to meet soon and nothing is better than that. Good luck

Answer 4

You need to leave him. Being in a bad relationship is not good for you or your kids. Millions of women raise kids on their own and do just fine. Just rely on friends, family, and people in your city to help you out. You CAN do it!! Don't be afraid to leave him, if he really loves you, then after you leave him he should try really hard to get you back, if not, then you are better off. Being a single parent is rough, but eventually you will meet a man that cares about you and your kids and will help you take care of them. That's what happened with me. My Daughter was 16 months when I met my now-husband and that is really the only father she knows. I put up with her biological dad's crap for way too long, he even hit me in the head when I was holding her. You cannot let your son think it is ok to treat women like this. You have to get out of the relationship. Go to a church, or community center, or health dept, somewhere where they will help you and give you faith and confidence in yourself. Good Luck, you can do this!! :)

Answer 5

Is this his first baby? Maybe he's starting to get the jitters and freaking out a little bit. Plus pregnancy can make us a little moody (just a little right?) so maybe he's feeding off you being grouchy or irritable?? Without prying you can ask what's the matter, and if he doesn't offer you any info, just leave him a little extra breathing room. Like I said, he's now seeing the the baby and seeing the baby move, etc, it's becoming more real. He may just be freaking out alittle. Usually after the baby's born though, he'll draw right back to being Mr. Nice GUy. If he doesn't, consider your options and maybe look at leaving. Although its scary, a single mom can be a great mom too!

Answer 6

First dont stress and get yourself all worked up! It is not healthy for the baby or yourself.

Next, just ask him about what is bothering him. Say I have noticed you have been acting kinda distant or what ever he is doing. If you have an open relationship he should understand.

But keep in mind, you are pregnant and emotions and hormones are raging. So dont overact too much.

If he is being crappy, then think to yourself do you want to raise a family in that type of environment.

Answer 7

I have no idea as I have no children but just know that lots of women have done just what you are about to do and sucessfully too. And that includes my own mother, and probably tons of women you know, or have met.

1. Please surround yourself with positive people. Nothing can put a spoke in your wheels as quickly as a naysayer with a negative attitude.

2. If you are a spiritual person, incorporate that into your family life with your two kids. They don't say "The family that prays together stays together" for nothing. And that means regular spiritual activities--like every night. It will keep you grounded and secure and teach your children values.

3. Try not to make your son a stand-in as your new baby's second parent. Please do not trash your ex and/or his father in front of him. Please do not allow him to take on family worries or responsibilities. It's okay for him to help around the house but please do not allow him to sacrifice his childhood out of love for his Mom. That's what I did as the eldest in a single parent family. My Mom couldn't see what I was doing and believe me I am in therapy about it. Save the kid some money. Don't allow him to become a man too soon.

4. Finally, don't be too hard on yourself. There's no way to know what might have been so please do not beat yourself up when things go wrong. A good family is not automatically a 2-parent family. Lots of psychos come from so-called good homes.

Answer 8

Man people say some really crappy things around here.

My mother raised my brother and I on her own for the most part. She did fine. No it wasn't the easiest thing to do, but having a man around is not a vital thing to raise children. You really don't want things to get any worse in your relationship, your kids see that, they see how it makes you feel, and it affects them more drasticaly than you can imagine. I know, I watched it happen to my own mother.
You don't have to rely on someone else to raise your kids. Be a mother to the best of your ability, thats all your kids ask of you. You know, there is an advantage to haveing a son a little older. Older kids help out a lot, especially when they see mom really needs the help.
Pull out of the relationship, but bond with your son. Never forget to explain things to him, don't just drag him around and make him deal with what is going on.
And I really hope that nobody would ever run out and just try to find another bf or gf just to make up for that loss, it's really silly.
If you are afraid of the financial end, there is help out there. Get what help you need going now before this baby is born. Get yourself set up as much as you possibly can, just take one step at a time. Hopefully you have a friend around that will help you out a bit, or family members that can help you. Just try not to rely on them. It's not as horrible as you might think to raise kids on your own, but it would be worse to stick around in a bad relationship because you think you have limited options.
You can be a better parent on your own than you can trying to battle someone who is tearing you down.
Hope things work out for you. Good luck and be strong!

Answer 9

It is scary, but get rid of the guy if he's treating you crappy. You don't need that right now - or EVER. If he's mean or abusive to you, he is also being a LOUSY role model for your son (and may be abusive to him!)

You aren't doing yourself, your son, or your soon to be baby any favors by sticking to a bad man.

There are lots of organizations who will help you. You are right, it will not be easy, but it will be better in the long run not to complicate your life with a lousy guy.

Answer 10

you have 1 responsibility and only 1 responsibility, that is to the children, all else no longer matters.
Maybe your boyfriend is scared and for some reason can't deal so he is being a craphead. If that isn't the reason then you need to get away from him move back in with a parent or something.