Why do women act like they don't need a man to raise a family?

Question

Please explain this to me. A man teaches his son how to be a man and his daughter how a woman should be treated. A woman teaches her daughter how to be a lady and her father teaches her how a man should treat a lady. Men and women have different roles in raising a family and each role is important. I have the deepest respect for single women raising a family. I am a married woman raising a family so their job is more difficult than mine. I just disagree that a man just is not needed, as if donating the sperm is enough.

I'm not getting why anyone would be offended by this question. I'm not retarded. I am college educated and intelligent. And that reply looks like someone is quite bitter...My post is merely to say that I think both parents bring different things to the table. An unhealthy relationship shouldn't produce kids. If a parent passed away, I am not talking about those families either. Two people can be divorced and each parent is still totally active in the child's life. I am specifically talking about people choosing to have kids in situations where they pretty much know they are going to raise the child alone.

Answer 1

A women doesn't need a man for anything.

Answer 2

Part of the feminist movement seemed to feel that men were not required and that feeling has filterd into some womens thoughts on families.

You need a mom and dad for many reasons. A few key ones are as follows

Relief - O yeah I can do all and have it all! Pass the Prozac and the wine bottle. The job of raising kids is very difficult and stressful. Mom does a lot of work but she needs to be relieved from time to time. Dads provides that relief - even if at times is not the perfect role model.


Boys - unless you are going to ban boys, we need dads. Growing boys need to be able to have a male role model.

There are lots of other very good reasons that should be a man the family that others have also mentioned.

Are there single parent (mom or dad) families that work? Yes. But it is much harder and there is more risk to the children. Mom and dad together should always be the first choice.

Answer 3

This has been proven many times over, that children grow up more rounded and stable if there is a man in their lives. I think this whole "I don't need a man" is a backlash from all those years that a woman had no choice. Wayyyy back in the day, a woman would be disowned by her familiy for having a child out of wedlock. Then she was just "sent away" or the baby was sent away to maintain the order of the family. In the fifties an unmarried mother was looked down upon. Finally, being a single mother is, I think, semi accepted in our culture today. So it's finally like, "I can do it on my own and won't get harrassed for it, so I will. So there."

Good question!

Answer 4

Maybe it's more like they don't need the wrong man. My now ex-husband was a nice man when I met him. Something changed, I suspect drugs, when I was pregnant with my sons and he hit me. I left him that night and divorced him when my sons were born. I never looked back and we didn't need the person he was. He must have got some help because he is now a loving father. He may never have been if I had let him continue without consequence, but I will never go back to him either. As for now, why would I want the mindset that I must have a man to help raise my children, one that lives with us and can be an example, when that may never happen. I have to know that I am doing the best I can, and that that is good enough, and that my sons will learn to be good men despite the fact they don't have a 24/7 father.

Answer 5

They have done some studies on this and found that it is true that a home with a "stable" (had to add that because some will be better off without one of the biological parents) Mother and father is the best situation and in fact they are discovering that of the children who grow up in a single Parent home the one with a FATHER are better off usually. They communicate better, handle situations better, and do better in school.

It's funny how you only hear the women complaining they don't need a husband. Fact is, acting like that no respecting man would want you. You rarely here a Father saying a Mother isn't needed.

Answer 6

Smart chick. I totally agree with you word for word. Our society has gotten away from truth and tradition and it has been detrimental. I was a single mother for over 12 years. It wasn't necessarily hard, but there were challenges, I could only depend on myself although my family was extremely helpful. A man is very needed, there is so much they provide and the financial, strength aspect is just a small part of it. I always wanted a husband and I feel much better (like my real self) now that I am married and raising two precious girls who will be better off having had a Daddy in the house. I don't know what I would have done without my Dad around.

Answer 7

well, I am also married with children. However, I disagree...women have been raising perfectly beautiful and normal children ALONE, since the start of time. Yes,ofcourse it is helpful to have a man there doing it with you, but not absolutely needed. Women and men alike have learned to take over the roll of both sexes where parenting comes in. A woman can teach a boy how to be a true man, with respect for themselves and others just as easily as a man can, you don't have to be a man to understand those things....and a man can also teach a girl the same things, isn't that what is most important in being HUMAN!

Answer 8

I think children do need a good male role model but sometimes the father is just not a good choice some dads don't deserve to raise children that's why i think SOME women act as if they don't need a man to raise there kids,but at the same time maybe an uncle or cousin can be that support to help mold the children

Answer 9

I'd like to see that woman who posted first to go out and do the dirty jobs only men do. Sure, there are *some* women who are stronger than lots of guys... but guys are needed to do the manual labor around here.

Intellectually women have got the same brains (although men have an easier time with engineering) so in that regard women don't need men.

However...

Without a father the kids are more likely to turn out to be those kids you see on MTV doing crazy ****. You can't tell me a woman doesn't need a man.

Answer 10

I think the key word here is need. The only thing a woman actually need from a man is his sperm. I most certainly wouldn't say she needed him to raise a family. The same goes for a man needing a woman to raise a family. If either that man or that woman has a sense of right and wrong and can convey that message to their children, that's pretty much all that's needed.

What about men and women who stay together simply for the sake of the child- to give him the illusion of a solid family structure. A healthy family base, while it goes according to tradition to have a mother and father, simply need to come from love and a willingness to do what's best for the child. I don't think that has anything to do with gender or marital status.

Answer 11

There are just certain things a boy needs to learn from a male role model. And there are certain things a girl needs to learn from a female role model. Typically, and traditionally it would be the parents of these children. To think that one can replace these role models with other things is cheating those kids.

I wish I knew the answer to why certain groups seem to think that bringing a child into the world in a single-parent situation is a good idea. Maybe it's one part ultra-feminist thinking or one part a shunning of traditional values. In either case, it deprives a kid of those good role models, if indeed a one-parent situation is a conscious choice.