Don't get me wrong. I like lesbians and have them as friends. However, I sometimes think they defend every aspect of a gay man's lifestyle without knowing what that lifestyle is really like. What's your take on this? Do lesbians realize that all possible aspect of the gay lifestyle are not necessarily healthy?
2006-08-23 04:10:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Examples: possibility of multiple partners, promiscuity, anonymous sex in public or semi-public places.
2006-08-23 04:13:27 · update #1
Fieldscharlie, what makes you think I am straight? I have not identified as such on this site, ever. Your statements give credence to my main point.
2006-08-23 05:08:09 · update #2
You are on a roll people. Keep going. Hope I have livend up your day!
2006-08-23 06:13:54 · update #3
Hmmm.. that's a very good question, my child. I haven't had the same experiences, but I don't know your friends either. I prefer people to be in monogamous relationships myself and multiple partners make me worry for the sake of their health (but I'm an older Lady and rather funny that way). I believe that many lesbians do realize the full aspect of the gay lifestyle. Many of them are in the same positions. It is hard (so I've been told) to find a steady partner without shopping around. Personally, I hope everyone -- gay or straight -- is taking care of themselves if they have multiple partners. Blessings on you.
2006-08-23 05:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off your coming from a pretty presumptuous position ie: "Do lesbians realize that all possible aspect of the gay lifestyle are not necessarily healthy?" news flash, those aspects you listed are FAR from being exclusively Gay. Your question also implies a certain disdain for Gays both in the question itself and the tone in which it is asked. Sorry but your not hiding very well what appears to be a not to subtle dislike of Gays. The reason I say this is because of the "some of friends are...." line, which as many of us knows usually means the opposite. Also, why be defencive about being accused of being str8? if your not Gay then what, or are you Gay, in which case the question becomes suspect. Either way, it seems to be a dishonest question from the get go, especially given that you presume that a lesbian defending a gay man's lifestyle would be something that regularly happens, IT DOESN'T. Believe me, lesbians have better things to do.
For the record I am a gay man.
2006-08-23 05:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always odd to me when people talk about the "gay and lesbian lifestyle" because you're right. I'm a lesbian, and I have no idea what the life is like for gay men. Other than being attracted to the same sex, I can't think of any major similarities. I know my relationships are nothing like those of my gay male friends. I think I tend to defend everything because if I have to choose a side, I will always side with a gay man versus someone attacking his behavior.
2006-08-23 07:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
healthy? Well every ones life is different, and yes even gay men. I cannot think of any reason why a gay mans life is healthy or unhealthy due to the fact that they are gay...so I'm not really sure why a lesbian would secretly know all aspects of any life gay or straight and come to a conclusion about it. Do they have a supernatural power I am unaware of?
2006-08-23 04:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am g0y so I don't practice the specific practices you mention which are unsafe. But not every gay male practices them either. I know a vast majority are in monogamous relationships lasting years. So a lesbian defending a gay mans lifestyle is not unwarranted. certainly if a person mentions a specific aspect of gay lifestyle which is blatantly unsafe then defending that is of course absurd.
2006-08-23 05:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you making asinine assumptions about gay people like that? It's like you are saying to every gay person out there that you know more about his own private sexual life more than he does. Those lesbians are right to set you straight. You should become a lesbian. It would raise you IQ up by about 100 points. Lesbians are smart, wise, and wonderful women. I should know. I am one. They're not whoring it up like you by sucking dik. You just add to the evidenciary proof of how stupid and evil heterosexuals can be, and apparently, stiill are. Would you like some fries and a shake to go with that foot sandwich? Want a little ketchup on that? Maybe some mayonnaise? Or some mustard? Those gay guys of which you speak are feeding into the masculine heterosexual stupidity and mentality. A real good guy wouldn't do the things that you are suggesting.
P.S. Gays gays are the obvious step-up from just your average-looking sh*t-throwing goony turd, i.e. straight guy.
P.P.S. Just like any other goon and bimbo, you think that you are so much better than lesbians and gay people, huh? Do your so-called lesbian friends know that you think like this, that you are a heterogynophobe (Lesbianism is female heterosexuality.)?
P.P.P.S. I wish that I can get gay people to convert to lesbianism, so people can stop making fun of them for being common stupid streetrat whores. Again, buying into the hype of masculine heterosexuality. What can I say? We're in deep doo-doo, literally, if you know what I mean, good guys and smart and wise women.
2006-08-23 04:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What you are asking is do lesbians defend the unsavoury aspects of gay men's behavior for the purpose of solidarity?
I do feel that gay men are STILL men. The male attitude toward love, sex and acceptable behavour is vastly different from that of a woman straight or gay.
So, my answer is yes, I do agree that lesbians tend to forgive gay (men) behavior.
2006-08-23 04:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering the fact that in certain contexts the Heterosexual Lifestyle isn't "healthy" either I doubt that their efforts to "defend" gay men are unwarranted. Any "lifestyle" can be dangerous, singling out Gay Men simply smacks of homophobia and Bias.
2006-08-23 04:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think all lesbians are like that, but I do find it offensive to have someone who doesn't understand your lifestyle to try to defend it, because they just don't understand it!
Not to mention a gay people's lifestyles arn't all the same.
2006-08-23 09:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who really gives a **** if it's healthy or not? My best friend indulges in some "unhealthy" practices, multiple partners etc, and it suits him just fine. He's no hurting anyone, or himself, so I just leave him be. I'd be more worried if he was on the street doing drugs, and prostituting himself out for money. It's not just lesbians who are defensive of gay men (although I myself am one), but straight women as well. As long as they aren't hurting you, just leave them alone. If the practices are as unhealthy as you say they are, they'll soon learn their lesson.
2006-08-23 15:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋